To think this is insensitive

[waterflu]

I have been waiting on news for a while. I heard it today and it was not good. Really really upsetting. I told only two family members. I cried a lot. It's a tough day that will effect the rest of my life.

One of these two family members is now complaining in a group family chat also containing two other family members who don't know my news. She's complaining about something really trivial and everyone is pitching in to offer support. She does this often but she could have just not done it on this day considering the news I received.

My feeling was devastation, hers was frustration.

Sorry to hear about your news 💐hope you have other people supporting you through it 💐
that’s really crap of your family member, if they often attention seek, others are prob kinda on to them and maybe just being polite?

thank you for replying @Jibbajabba1 I needed this tonight. They do often attention seek but are a good person. They just won't have thought of me. They're used to a daily barrage of 'well done' 'amazing' 'awwww' 'that sounds tough' 'im so sorry' I just never really post

Nothing helpful to add, I'm afraid, but just sending strength your way. Go gently on yourself, OP.

Whatever this bad news is will clearly upset you. However you need to understand that other peoples lives move on. Because you've had bad news, does not stop someone else having a (rather less) but shit day for some reason and I think they are allowed to vent.

I'm sorry you're going through a shit time.

@waterflu
Hi there. So sorry you have received what sounds like life changing news but not for her better.

Yes your relative sounds very insensitive given that you only told her your news today and she then went on to moan about something trivial on social media.

I wouldn't involve her in any more news concerning your situation. Please concentrate on yourself now and surround yourself with positive people that can help you as you go forward.
Good luck x💐