Night mare help adult

[acuteanxiety]

Hi I've started to have sudden nightmares I wrote a really in depth post and I swiped and lost it

I've recently had a huge stress with my relationship with my parents is it related to this I don't know?

Is it a thing to have them a week Ina row? No caffeine except morning coffee

Nightmares are vivid so I dont think they are terrors and involve many of my defects totally related to my life with everyone I know in them.

I am seeing a perinatal psychologist next month but I haven't had a problem with them in my past other than the occasional typical falling teeth tsunami thing
Also sleep paralysis on napping so I had to use an alarm to stop the paralysis happening

These are all related to aspects of my life and my history of taking prescribed pain killers. I am beside myself. Last night I thought I was having a seizure

Anything I can do to prevent the night mare s? I can expand on them if it gives any more help I just spent twenty minutes writing a post and lost it which explained more about my relationship with my parents who are perfectionist and me who is not

My marriage and home life is stable we have no social service input no police no school no nothing so not a welfare issue and my relationship with my husband is better then ever

He wakes me when he knows I'm having a nightmare but I am now at the point of not wanting to go to sleep

I have had night mares every single night since I returned home from holiday and I am beside myself

Sorry for double just please anyone it's bed time I'm so worried
I literally couldn't breathe last night

There was an excellent thread on Sunday morning about nightmares and sleep paralysis. I suffered massively after a trauma and eventually EMDR did help greatly. I hesitate to mention this but my nightmares almost always occur when I haven’t had any alcohol. Weird but true.

It may be worth a chat with your GP to see if a short course of anti anxiety meds may help.

For most of us this does pass but in the midst of it it’s very difficult indeed. Great sympathy to you.

Really sorry you're going through this.

It is almost certainly stress-related, I think. Any kind of stress, disruption, buried emotion, trauma etc can trigger nightmares and sleep paralysis. So can starting or stopping certain medications.

I think you'll probably get some replies recommending that you get a prescription for anti-depressants or anti-anxiety drugs, but some of these can make nightmares worse, so if you see your GP and that's what they suggest, just make sure they have considered this and prescribed you the right kind of drug. There are probably drugs that would be right for you, but not all of them would, so it's about finding the right treatment if you think treatment will be necessary.

I've had severe nightmares all my life, so I sympathise hugely - and I would add that my most distressing ones do tend to the ones that are about my relationship with my family. I have a good relationship with my family in reality but my worst nightmares are ones where there is awful conflict between us and they are behaving inexplicably badly to me, or to each other. I would much rather have the kind of nightmare where I'm being chased by a murderer any day of the week. So totally understand how distressing this must be for you.

Have you been able to talk through what happened with your parents with anybody? Friends, partner, a professional counsellor? That might help get some of it out of your system, as it were.

I really appreciate these replies

I've been suggested to take citalopram but I am resistant because of the stigma in my family I am desperate for everyone's approval in life

I was repeatedly asked "what are you taking" when I was away and I honestly at the moment am not except the occasional beta blocker

I am not alcohol dependent but I do drink wine and on the weekend I went out and I had less nightmares then usual

It's not too dark or too bright I'm so safe here it's a safe road safe village I am just beside myself

I was also raped and recorded in one of my dreams (I have listed on my other thread sorry I do have two I am sooo sooo sooo desperate not to be so scared tonight) I am beside my self with the experiences I've had

I will engage with and try to open up to perinatal I'm just so ashamed of myself and the fact I have a clinical history with prescribed pain killers I don't know why my parents think I'm such a loser

They accosted my husband too to ask him "what is she on!!" And I was just very very stressed whilst away never over the drinking limit etc I'm highly anxious but I'm not used to these nightmares and I'm worried now about epilepsy

Sorry I am so glad for the replies I am so relieved to know I'm not alone or judged

Hi OP I suffered terrible with either no sleep or nightmares after a massive trauma
I would literally wake up and could smell the hospital even though I was at home
the only thing that has helped me (and full disclosure I am autistic but this might help someone else) is I have a scented pillow pet.I not sure they make them anymore but you can get a bottle of “cookie scent” or vanilla scent or something off Amazon I think
anyway I have 2 scented pillow pets in my bed. I smell them when I go to bed, and as I go to sleep. When I I wake up (I do multiple times in the night) first thing I do is grab them and smell them.

this has really helped me remain calm in bed and I actually get some rest. I also think the deep breathing as I inhale the smell must help too. It is automatic for me now cos I have had them a few years and I can honestly say the nightmares are rare these days although I still not sleep well

I hope this helps someone

Hey pink

Thank you for this my husband is a bit of a father figure to me I wonder if I could put his t shirt on my pillow ? We have a super king bed and I am 5ft although he is 6ft we have a good space between us and I have slept on his pillow with him the last two nights it still hasn't helped and the worst sleep paralysis happened when he went to the toilet last night and it felt forever I was having a seizure although he tells me he wasn't long he loves me silly we are so so close I can't get my head around this

I have MAJOR issues with my parents and I feel insecure about myself around them but I am so loved by my friends Is it honestly possible after the latest incident this has just tipped me ? Was it the straw to the donkeys back

I hope tonight i will sleep in the comfort knowing this is ok and other people have it I honestly can't stop crying about going to sleep I'm so angry and hysterical about it
I want to read my book and be alone but also I want my husband to sit with me
I don't know if ear plugs are going to make me feel more suffocated I don't like them ever for many reasons but now I'm wondering as the baby has woken rather a lot but it's only the last two nights and this has happened since Tuesday last week I don't know what to do I am so lost and frightened I feel like a child

Thank you everyone for opening up