To be in just an ok job

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So I work 3 days a week in an FM type roll. It’s great around the kids and I get paid £1100 pm. I keep thinking I want a better job but I don’t have the head space whilst the kids are so young? Is this normal?

That's nice. I always missed my mum when she couldn't make it to school events or didn't engage in bake sale etc. I slowly drifted apart and never returned.

Thanks for explanation of role, I have often wondered. OP you sound like it's very secure for the NHS and I think you have a great set up. If it was FM for offices I would be thinking about the change to wfh and hybrid, seems like that type of FM role will change massively and it would be more important to consider your future proof ness of your role.

I also don't have a degree and have been at same employer over 20 years, I would love to move but not very employable elsewhere. So don't get stranded unless you really really are happy.

I sometimes feel inadequate because DH has REALLY good job. There is plenty of time for me to get there though at 32 right?

What even is a career anyway? Most people I know aren’t doing anything super impressive, (apart from DH) 😂

Tbh I'd say most people have the type of job you describe. You raise an interesting thought though in your last point, wives of men with 'big' jobs often make a finer point of it than anyone else in my experience - as you mention your 'super impressive' husband.

It just makes me feel so shit when everybody says how proud they are of him, makes me feel like failure as nobody says that to me!

Sometimes I think I should have got a career before kids. I really feel shit about it, not because it’s what I want, but how society makes me feel. I just don’t think I am very career minded 😢