DH and I are going through a rough patch as stressed out parents of 2 kids under 3.
We are trying to work on it and we we are both expliciting saying what we need to change in our life.
Thing is, DH keeps pointing out with "light comments" that what he is doing is just to make me happy.
E.g.
"Yeah, i know i know, you said no smartphone during dinner, i finish the article and put it away before you freak out"
"Look, i have prepared DD bag for tomorrow to make you happy"
"I know, DS, it is not up to me, we have to stop watching tv after this show or mum will complain"
"Before you nag me, i know i have to return on time for your meeting"
And many more.
This drives me f* insane, it is so triggering to me that i immediately react badly and we start a discussion.
I told him "can you just do the stuff without the passive aggressive comments"? Also, i am irritated that DC could always hear this type of comments.
Yesterday he told me that i am never happy. That he is doing exactly what i have requested and i still find a reason to fight. That he does not know what more he can do to make me happy.
But i think he is triggering me on purpouse with those comments and i am not the one initiating the fight, those comments are!
AIBU? And what should i do in both cases?