My ex partner continues to live with us. I tread on eggshells everyday and my DS is picking up on it too trying to be peace keeper. My ex is emotionally abusive; not physical (to me mostly) but I don’t know when and how best to move us out of the situation. I feel like a fraud going to a Dv shelter where women are being physically abused, I know my DS would want to see his Dad, our finances (mortgage etc) are intertwined and if I make the first move to leave I know he’d be malicious in everything that follows. I feel lost and want to protect DS but not separate him from his father. Truly lost