Advice needed - single mum considering drastic change

[RPL051792]

Hi everyone

I'm 30 and a single mum to my two lovely DC aged 8 and 3 1/2 yo. I currently live in Devon and I am considering moving to Scotland with my kids. I have one close friend up there but all my family etc are located down here.

I'm desperately wanting a fresh start. I had a very chaotic childhood due to my mother's partying lifestyle/alcohol abuse/dysfunctional relationships and this still affects me as an adult. I feel like I want to build a new life for my children and I, away from reminders of my growing up years. I'm just generally unhappy and itching to get away. I absolutely love Scotland. I'm not worried about being far away from people as I have basically 0 practical help with my kids anyway (which I don't mind as they're both great and I love being a mum). I'm a bit of a loner and independent, so that part doesn't worry me.

Am I mad to consider this?

Where is their Dad? You're unlikely to be able to move them without his permission.

Hi, sorry. Forgot to include in my post that their father isn't involved in their life (his choice entirely) and he would not be bothered in the least if I moved. Infact, he would probably be glad.

I don't think you're mad to consider it, particularly given that you get no support from your family or your kids' dad... and if you really love the idea of doing it then it might be really worthwhile.

But I would make sure you've done your homework and have put some sort of support network in place before you get there. You say you have one close friend and that's a start but you can't be over-dependent on this friend. How else do you plan to build a network? It could be quite lonely and isolating to start with.

How confident are you that you could find work up there?

How would it affect your kids? It's quite destabilising for them. How settled are they where you are now? Have you researched schools etc?

I think you should go for it! What about work though? Are you confident that you could find something suitable?

It sounds like you don't have any ties.

Have you considered the practilities, work/benefits,housing, schools etc.... Dont take for granted your life will work the same there as it does here......

i Could have written this myself OP! I’ve just moved to Australia and finding my feet in a new place. Loving it though I am peoples person and struggling with a bit of loneliness but I must say it’s been a great move and gradually getting to get comfortable after 9 weeks. Go for it!