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To think this is caused by alcohol?

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lisapumpvander · 30/08/2022 19:18

I drink every couple of weekends, usually only a couple of glasses on a Saturday night before dinner then stop drinking after I eat because I just seem to be sleepy after that.

However, on Saturday night I had a few friends over for dinner and drinks and I worked my way through 3 bottles of wine over about 10 hours (they arrived at 6 pm and didn't end up leaving until 4 am) Blush this is very unlike me or my friends but we just got carried away and acted like we were in our early twenties again.

On Sunday I was understandably very hungover. Monday I felt physically okay, but really depressed, anxious, paranoid. I had things to do yesterday (luckily no work) and did nothing but lay about feeling really really sad and hopeless. This morning I woke up feeling exactly the same and ended up sleeping half the day. I have this horrible pit in my stomach, it's like I feel homesick but am at home. I just feel so hopeless and overwhelmingly sad and once again spent today lying around with that horrid sick feeling in my stomach.

I am praying tomorrow I will feel better but is it really possible to still be feeling the effects of alcohol 3 full days later? My friends all seem to be up and getting on with their life. Whereas I'm here irritable and on the verge of tears.

AIBU to think it's the alcohol making me feel like this all these days later? If it is I honestly cannot drink that way ever again. It's horrendous.

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Reagol · 30/08/2022 19:21

If I drink too much, it has this affect on me, too. Seems to trigger a depressive episode, when I'm not usually depressed at all. So much so, that I never drink more than 3 drinks anymore!

It does fade, remind yourself it's the booze, drink lots of water and eat plenty of healthy food, you'll be yourself very soon!

Sunnyqueen · 30/08/2022 19:21

Mine has been known to last a good week or so on occasion. Hope you feel better tomorrow.

superram · 30/08/2022 19:22

Yes, I am old enough to know better but still do it.

DustinsHat · 30/08/2022 19:23

DH gets like this after a heavy session, he's unbearable to be found for a few days. I'm sure you'll feel better tomorrow!

Mumspair1 · 30/08/2022 19:23

Reagol · 30/08/2022 19:21

If I drink too much, it has this affect on me, too. Seems to trigger a depressive episode, when I'm not usually depressed at all. So much so, that I never drink more than 3 drinks anymore!

It does fade, remind yourself it's the booze, drink lots of water and eat plenty of healthy food, you'll be yourself very soon!

Weirdly enough this happens to me too. I also get very emotional and teary. I probably only have a drink about 3-4 times a year anyway and prefer it with dh who I can get all sappy with.

EscapeRoomToTheSun · 30/08/2022 19:24

Yes this happens to me if I hit it hard. It will pass I promise!

Itsthelookitsthelook · 30/08/2022 19:25

Yes, same. I am also much worse if it is wine that I've overdone it on too. Hope it passes soon.

Antarcticant · 30/08/2022 19:25

Undoubtedly. If you normally only have two glasses a week, three bottles, even over 10 hours, will be far more than your body is accustomed to processing and you'll feel lousy for a few days until everything resets itself.

It will pass and you'll soon feel normal again - as this was obviously a one-off I would file it under 'bad idea but no harm done' and forget about it.

MichaelAndEagle · 30/08/2022 19:26

I get the same. Especially after wine, so I really try to avoid it now.
For me, I only really drink on a child free weekend (divorced) so I have a child free day the next day. But instead of enjoying it/relaxing I just feel desperately sad and lonely and question all my life choices. When normally I don't feel like that at all.
A friend of mine describes it as feeling lost in your own home, but yes it is also like being homesick.

Snugglemonkey · 30/08/2022 19:28

Last year I went on an all day cocktail drinking spree since it was the first child free time I had been with my best friends for years (several of us live in different countries). I didn't even feel that drunk, but I know we drank an awful lot and I felt terrible for days. Sick, so sick, then weepy, really low. It really would put me off ever drinking like that again!

Thatswhyimacat · 30/08/2022 19:29

Was that 3 bottles to yourself?

I know a lot of people who if they drink heavily get an automatic 2 day hangover. Not to get all mn competitive sobriety, but 3 bottles over 10 hours is A LOT, I love my wine and am a fairly big drinker and I couldn't drink that, so I'm not surprised if you're feeling rough 3 days after especially if you don't usually drink much!

It's a one off, it passes.

MichaelAndEagle · 30/08/2022 19:29

To make it worse I then can't sleep the next night either.

holidayhonesty · 30/08/2022 19:30

Yup it's the wine. I really cut down my drinking over spring and early summer. Recently been on hols drinking a lot and noticed the impact on my mood/anxiety etc.

torquewench · 30/08/2022 19:31

Yep, happens to me when I drink too much wine.
Also raging indigestion for days 😤

Changemaname1 · 30/08/2022 19:32

yes it’s definitely a thing op!

im at least 2 days feeling depressed as hell after a big drinking session which is luckily very rare for me . Last time however was a few weeks ago and honestly I felt awful for 2 full days even after the proper hangover had gone on day two I felt spaced out and miserable. mostly ok by day 3 but still felt down then ok day after

even if I just have a couple I still feel it the next day in terms of having a lower mood than normal

i used to be a proper “ party girl” when I was younger but can’t deal with it anymore hence why I rarely drink

Milknosugarta · 30/08/2022 19:33

I have sworn off wine just this weekend, it was giving me a headache after 2 small glasses. Going to try and avoid till December if possible.

NotTooOldPaul · 30/08/2022 19:34

@lisapumpvander thanks for sharing. I use wine to combat stress and it sometimes causes more stress that it fixes.
Life is not easy.

anon666 · 30/08/2022 19:46

Yes, it does sound like the alcohol. I gave up drinking years ago but once I had a load one night, and the next few days were awful. Felt so jittery

excitingusername · 30/08/2022 19:48

Of course it's alcohol! It's a depressant!

Coffeecuptogo · 30/08/2022 19:51

We call that “the fear“.

MichaelAndEagle · 30/08/2022 19:51

Why does the anxiety hangover only seem to happen as you get older though? Surely its a depressant when you're 21 too.

Antarcticant · 30/08/2022 19:59

MichaelAndEagle · 30/08/2022 19:51

Why does the anxiety hangover only seem to happen as you get older though? Surely its a depressant when you're 21 too.

As you get older, your body wears out and becomes less efficient at processing the alcohol.

Discovereads · 30/08/2022 19:59

MichaelAndEagle · 30/08/2022 19:51

Why does the anxiety hangover only seem to happen as you get older though? Surely its a depressant when you're 21 too.

Because your liver is older and has more wear and tear on it. Liver function declines gradually as we age. Alcohol is a toxin that is broken down in the liver. The older we are, the longer that takes and the more it affects other liver functions- thus the hangover symptoms.

MichaelAndEagle · 30/08/2022 20:05

Obvious really.

As you get older, your body wears out

Tell me about it!!

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lisapumpvander · 30/08/2022 20:08

3 bottles alllll to myself. The depression has honestly been so bad that I haven't showered since Saturday. I know that is disgusting and would never admit that to anyone IRL but it's the truth. I am usually very optimistic, upbeat and productive. I have never felt so low in my whole life. Feel like everyone has a vendetta against me and can't even shower!!

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