Ex husband got a job where I work.

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We have been divorced 15 years but I feel so annoyed.

Will you have to work closely with him?

I'd be mightily pissed off too

Oh God I'd have to leave, I couldn't tolerate that.

Ugh just why?

Oh I'd leave, what a knob.

Does he know you work there?

Do you think he took that job because he wanted to be near you? Or has he got the job not knowing you work there? Or is it a case that he maybe wanted the job and thought, 'oh crap the ex works there, but I want the job so I'll take it anyway and stay out of her way'.

Which it is will affect how you react I guess.

💐💐💐💐 Jeez how infuriating.

Need more info.

If you are going to have to work with him YADNBU. If you are going to see him regularly YANBU. If your paths will rarely cross YABU unless he is an abuser.

Need more info to decide, will you be working closely with him?

As if not I don’t see the issue.

God my ex did this to me once and made going to work so difficult. Luckily it was a supermarket job back in the day so I just left.

I don’t see what he’s done wrong.

If he needs a job then he’s going to work wherever he can get a job, surely? You don’t own the company and neither were you on the interview panel presumably.

If he’s capable of doing the job then there’s no reason why he shouldn’t work there.

Annoying 😡

What are you going to do?

A lot depends on the nature of the job (eg are you both in a very niche industry for example?) and if you're going to have to work alongside him at any stage.

It's not ideal but equally I am not sure I would be that bothered.

A job is a job at the end of the day and he might need it. Shrug it off. If a big company your paths may not cross.

Dose he know you work there? My ExH interviewed at my company once, I found his CV on the printer, I shared a printer with HR, I then went and looked at the visitors book and saw he’d met with HR twice. I called him and said hey did you know I work at X now, he said no, I responded with thought so, I saw you met with HR twice and didn’t think you’d apply for a job knowing I’m here. Not sure if he didn’t get the job or turned it down but he never started. We met at work and there is no way we could work for the same company again, his current partner would go mad.

Seems strange. Be careful OP.

Oh hell no… will you have to work closely together? And does he know you work there?

Could be a conflict of interest. I would talk to your line manager or HR department. All conflict of interests where I work have to be declared and then it can be managed properly.

I'd be annoyed but if you don't have to work closely just go the professional route and let management sort it out.

What kind of ex is he?

An annoying ex you'd rather forget, or an abusive/controlling one who made your life miserable when you divorced?

Did he know you work there

How annoying!!

If a big company I’d make HR aware, particularly if he knew you work there. Seems an odd thing for him to do unless you both work at Portman Down or something.

If a small company I’d consider leaving and I’d also be thinking about how to build a case for one of those court orders where he can’t come within X metres of your home or workplace, in case he’s going stalker-ish.

It depends on the size of the company and his role in relation to yours.

3 people working in the same office is very different to 1000 people working over several floors.

Dealing with each other several times a day is different to having no work related contact.

Mind you, either way hell would freeze over before I worked in the same organisation as my ex.

Well it depends really does he know you work there ?
And what kind of job is it if you were both nurses for example he might just be applying for any vacant position.