To think I can do this?

[LizaSimpson]

I just wanted some opinions to see if I'm being reasonable or batshit crazy -

I'm returning to university to study psychology in September. I'll be starting my second year again as I had to drop out (annoyingly at the end) because I had a baby but at the same my dad became very poorly and passed away a month later and my mum has additional needs that at the time needed attention and it was all a bit much to take on whilst completing a degree.

I'm going back in September now everything is sorted and settled but we're having a baby in November, my son is currently 19 months old and I'll be attending uni once a week -

Reasons I think I can do it :

I've done it before and know what to expect - it's all theory based with no placements and I found them okay to do so I think with some planning I should be okay like I'm thinking I complete work on the night shift with the baby plus uni has already said if I need extensions I could have them.

I have a lot of support between my mum, grandma, in laws and husband - my husband finishes work at 2pm and has weekends off, my mum can come up everyday (she has mild needs, she's able to help look after toddler with me there) and my in laws and grandma will have toddler and baby when I'm at uni plus husband is a hands on dad so will help with tea, housework etc etc

Reasons I'm a bit worried

You never know what baby you'll get, she may have colic or something and never stop crying.

My recovery might not be as easy as it was last time so that may buggar me up a little bit.

Sleep deprivation can be brutal.

What's everyone else's thoughts? Anyone had any experience that can share some wise words and advice?

Thank you

Don’t think of why you can’t do something

do you want to return to studying?

yes/no

no ifs no buts

I would say try, take each day as it comes. It sounds like you have a good support network to help facilitate it. Just be kind on yourself once the baby arrives, you can’t predict what will happen then, just see how it goes!

I work at a university that has a huge number of students trying to juggle work, childcare, caring commitments etc. and I would say: do it!

My advice would be to find out who your personal tutor is and keep in touch with them. Also, familiarise yourself with the extenuating/mitigating circumstances policy and use it if you need it. If you start to struggle, tell your PT straightaway (and if they’re not responding, grass them up to admin). Don’t assume you’re the only one. You are not.

I’ve seen so many students experiencing a wave of doubt but then going on to graduate. The joy seems to be twice as big.

Good luck!