To resent my parents choice of name for me?

[Blaengwnfi]

This is a rant - apologies.

I’ve always hated my name.

No one can pronounce it. Not even my father or siblings. It was always read out incorrectly at school and the other kids would laugh at me. It gives me major anxiety having to introduce myself.

I use my middle name professionally but it doesn’t feel like “my” name. I feel so angry with my parents sometimes for burdening me with this name.

Parents - please think before giving your kid a weird or “unique” name! It could really mess them up…

I have a name that's very unusual and most people mispronounce and misspell. I tried using my middle name when I was younger but it didn't work because it's very boring, and I'm used to my first name now.

I've just learned to embrace it over the years. If you can't do that then might be worth picking your own name that you feel comfortable with (maybe something you've always used as a nickname) and either changing it by deed or just adopting it as your user name without legally changing it. I have a few friends who have changed their names legally later in life, it was fine and most people adapted to it.

I don't see how you can resent it. You can not like it but the implication that they named you deliberately to cause you problems is madness.

It’s the pp saying a kid is in for a world or pain
or they’d challenge the name that are the actual issue
not the name

what is wrong with an unusual name? Other people challenge you, tell you they don’t like it, treat you differently, laugh at you, refuse to learn how to spell it, act really put out if you ask them to pronounce it correctly, or otherwise commenting and making rude judgements etc.
theyre the worst case scenarios. All of these things are resolved by those people just not being rude. Personally I wouldn’t change my name or give DC common names, to accommodate other peoples rudeness, because I personally could not ever imagine being such a foul person that I did any of that to anyone else, no matter what name they had or had given their child.

In Australia we can spend thousands of dollars to change our name by deed poll, or a couple of hundred to get our birth certificate renewed with whatever name you like if you are over 18. I changed my surname when I was 25 for professional reasons, but actually wish I had also changed my first name (which isn’t Frances like my user name implies.). I have the feminine version of a really common and popular boy’s name. People used to assume that I didn’t know my name, or had got it wrong. I was also called ALL of these names (which are not my own, but more common) by teachers who seemed to think it was a better idea or easier than my ACTUAL name. Judy, Josie, Jocelyn, Christine, Janine, Joanne, Jessie, Jenny, Tina and Jasmine. Jasmine was actually very uncommon when I was a kid, but still more acceptable than my own name. I also feel that it really doesn’t suit little kids at all, but it’s a name that suits middle-aged or older women. While I don’t love it at 50, I’ve grown into it.

As you've namechanged for this thread,... what is your DD's name?

You state you are 'too old' to change it. Why didn't you change it while you were still young if you hated it so much?
Have you resented your parents your whole life for giving you your name? have you told them that you resent them so much? How has that affected your relationship with them?
Has having an unusual name prevented you from having friends/partner/children?
People on here baffle me - why not just act instead of festering

@JesusInTheCabbageVan , @PuntoEBasta , Gog here and would say gwin-vee. Blaen is like Blah-en, but said as one syllable like Bline

Bline GWYN-vee

I have a very unusual Welsh name and I love it- no one can pronounce it but that’s a them problem not mine. I’m not ashamed of my name it’s part of my heritage and why would you want to be like everyone else!?

Not the OP but as a child I had no idea I could change my name, and then for ages it felt too late

Ynyr is pronounced UN-irr (UN like in unusual, irr like in irrestistible)

Have you considered changing your name to Naomi? As that was meant to be your name originally.

Of course it's not too late to change it - get it done asap!

Women change their name all the time - to their husbands. Feels weird initially but then it feels totally 'you' - so much so, some married women who get divorced keep their married name.

Just change your name and crack on !

Yes because he learnt to form the sounds when he was a baby/young child.

I think she meant her DH could say , not her DS

A surname is very different to a first name though.

@DacwMamYnDwad

yep. The move to Wales is OFF. Love the language, it all works fine as long as I don't have to open my mouth 😩🥺

I don't understand why (some) parents don't think more about the impact of naming their children.

I agreed 'naming' rules with DH in advance. Absolutely no naming after family members, nothing that would be embarrassing when shouting 'x, don't do that' in the middle of Tesco, no extremely popular names to avoid being in class with a handful of others with the same name, something that didn't sound stupid with our surname. And we each had 5 vetos on any name regardless ....

How old are you OP? I was always ambivalent towards my name and didn't feel that any of the nicknames matched me either but as I got older, my attitude changed and I did adopt one of the shortened versions. Somewhere between 30s and 40s, that version did start to feel like me.

As the owner of a non-english name, if your dad and brothers can't pronounce your name - and to be fair, anyone else once you've pronounced it for them - then they're lazy fuckers. My name consists of three very simple syllables, it's really not hard to pronounce 🙄

*As the owner of a non-english name, I can say with certainty...

YANBU

I hated my name growing up. It was a "normal" name, but incredibly unusual. I was teased horribly for it.

I'm ok with it now. It's gaining in popularity.

What really gets my goat is my mother rolling her eyes and muttering "poor child" whenever she hears of a child with a name that doesn't meet her approval. She has no fucking clue what she put me through with my name.

Parents can be twats. I'm probably one too therefore.

I’m Welsh but don’t have a Welsh name, I was named for a grandparent. If I did have a Welsh name I’d find the idea of changing it to make it easier for English people to pronounce rather offensive.

I live about 10 miles down from Blaengwynfi and say gwin vee

Loads of people use their middle name as their main name. My brother does, for instance, and changed it to that when he was in his 20s as his first name now has 'chavvy' connotations (even though it was given to him as a family name.)

He just went into work one day and said 'Now I want you to call me Brian, not Jim'.

I hate oddly spelled names.

The one I struggle with a Sian.

I think it looks like Sigh Ann or See Ann.
God knows how it is pronounced Sharn.

I know a Llinos but her middle name is also Welsh.