I had a fight with husband yesterday which has spoilt our bank holiday. I just wish I never said anything but it really affects me. Some insight and advice would be really helpful. I’ll try to keep it brief but then it might be drip feeding but I’ll try to make it succinct as possible, please bear with me!
we’re Asians just for the Context. I married DH and then I was surprised as his sisters never bothered with me being the new bride. It’s expected to be invited to their homes. I never went to their homes in the early days. Also for context my kids have never been invited and eldest is 9 years old. This is all fair enough I could expect there’s no relationship HOWEVER I get accused by MIL for not mixing with the family!
When his sisters drop around to her home I’m expected to drop everything and cancel all plans and go there. I did for the first 5 years of marriage (been mailed 11 years now). They bullied me so much and picked on me every time I saw them. I have now stopped going around when they are there and have told MIL they can come to my home which is in the next street as MIL but they never come.
Husband l took the kids around yesterday as his sister decided to visit. I was a little upset and told him it upsets me they want nothing to do with me and he admitted that his mum stirs a lot but I don’t believe it’s just that. I asked him to stay home with me and not leave but he took the kids and went all evening, I’m really sad and talked to him again which erupted into arguments. I told him they don’t really care about us and wouldn’t care if they never saw us. The relationship is only alone as husband makes the effort. In the past when he suggested we go around they never respond!
I really feel anger all those years when I sat around smiling when they would openly attack me and say nasty things about me,