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To be terrified I might lose my job over this?

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Prettybubblesintheair · 29/08/2022 22:07

Started a new job 7 weeks ago. I’d been out of work a long time, years in fact, and it took me a long time to get this job. I absolutely love it, it’s fulfilling, interesting and fun and the people are lovely. I work three days a week and was offered an extra day which I accepted. When asked when I could start it I said I could start the week after next (this was on 19th august, so stating extra day on Wednesday 31st). However last Monday I remembered I had something I can’t get out of on Wednesday so I messaged my manager on the our instant messaging thing and said I’m really sorry but I can’t do the 31st, she said that was ok. However I’ve just noticed I’m on the rota for a half day on Wednesday but I honestly can’t go in, I have no childcare and I cannot get out of the appointment I have, it’s important. I’m terrified they’re going to see me as unreliable and sack me. I don’t know how far the instant messaging goes back, just hoping I can log on in the morning and find it. There are two managers and I have a feeling the one I told isn’t the one who did the rotas. I absolutely love this job and don’t want to lose it, in my contract I’m contracted to do Mondays Tuesdays and Fridays. The management are really lovely but I’m just so scared of losing this job.

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Hotandbothereds · 29/08/2022 22:10

Honestly I think this will be fine, just explain in person tomorrow, it’s only one day.

If it comes to it could you say you’ll book it as leave?

I don’t think you’ll really need to though, just ask if you can start the new hours the following week.

carefullycourageous · 29/08/2022 22:10

I'm so sorry you are scared. All you can do is try to contact them tomorrow, in your situation there is no real reassurance anyone can give because when you are new in a job it is possible for a company to dismiss - but they would be foolish to do that over a genuine mix up in a time of staff shortages.

Hopefully it will be OK Flowers

Prettybubblesintheair · 29/08/2022 22:12

Thank you. I’m actually in tomorrow so I can speak to them first thing. I just don’t want to lose this job, I love it and it took me so long to get it.

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jelly79 · 29/08/2022 22:14

Oh please don't stress they obviously think nightly of you to ask you to do an extra day and she has agreed the day off so it's her oversight x

custardbear · 29/08/2022 22:15

It would be a nightmare to readvertise, interview and appoint someone else for a teeny tiny oversight - they wouldn't ask you to up your hours if you weren't any good so just apologise and sort your childcare moving forwards
Glad you enjoy your new job'

Prettybubblesintheair · 29/08/2022 22:20

Thank you for the replies, they’ve honestly really helped x

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Georgeskitchen · 29/08/2022 22:33

Just apologise and say you hadn't realised that it was the same day as your appointment. These things happen and I'm sure it wowon'be the first time they've had to rejig the rota.
different story if you were doing it every week

ReginaPerrin · 29/08/2022 22:37

custardbear · 29/08/2022 22:15

It would be a nightmare to readvertise, interview and appoint someone else for a teeny tiny oversight - they wouldn't ask you to up your hours if you weren't any good so just apologise and sort your childcare moving forwards
Glad you enjoy your new job'

☝️This. Employers have to juggle rotas all the time, so I’m sure they’ll be fine once you explain the circumstances.

Well done on your new job!

Prettybubblesintheair · 29/08/2022 22:37

I suppose another bit of relevant info is that I worked every day last week as they were short staffed. So I am there when I can be and I do cover for them at short notice. Fingers crossed they will be ok about it, I’d be devastated to lose the job.

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Jellybean23 · 29/08/2022 22:45

This doesn't sound anything like a sacking situation . It's an honest oversight and not something you'd even be given a warning about. They need you, they are short staffed, they want you to do extra days. They can't afford to sack you!

BabyShaark · 29/08/2022 22:47

Relax OP.

If it helps, about three months into a new job I started an affair with my boss.

Ended the way these things usually end. Not nice.

7 years on and I’m still working for the same I firm (which I really like).

what I’m trying to say is, what you’ve described isn’t really an issue, at least not for a good employer. If you like the firm (I assume they’re a good firm) they’re unlikely to sack you.

there would have been red flags by now if it wasn’t a good firm

whereamu · 29/08/2022 23:01

Prettybubblesintheair · 29/08/2022 22:37

I suppose another bit of relevant info is that I worked every day last week as they were short staffed. So I am there when I can be and I do cover for them at short notice. Fingers crossed they will be ok about it, I’d be devastated to lose the job.

Congrats on your new job and you sound like a great, conscientious employee.
Good people are so hard to find, I think you will be fine.

Trying20 · 29/08/2022 23:36

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SeasonFinale · 29/08/2022 23:43

I think message now and say I see I am down for half day on 31/8. Sorry if I didn't let you both know A and B but I did mention to B I couldn't do that day. Hope it doesn't cause any problems. Happy to make up the time whenever but have a prearranged appointment I just can't change then.

You will feel better for having put the ball back in their court at least.

Prettybubblesintheair · 30/08/2022 06:58

Thanks everyone, is it too early to message now or should I hang on until 8:30 when we’re all in?

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Hotandbothereds · 30/08/2022 07:33

I would just wait until you’re in and speak to your manager.

Prettybubblesintheair · 30/08/2022 12:49

Thank you for the support everyone. My manager actually messaged me and asked me to work Thursday so I told her then that I thought there had been a miscommunication as I can’t work Wednesday and she was fine so it’s all sorted now. Thank you
everyone for reassuring me last night!

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