About 18 months ago I started a relationship with someone I had known for nearly 2 years, we are both late 20s, I have one child, he doesn’t have any children. This man is wonderful, however he likes to drink - a lot!
As I have known him a while I knew he liked to go out every weekend and that he liked a drink however I didn’t realise how much. He is a large man, rugby lad so when he goes out he can have well over 10 pints, plus spirits, he usually orders a pint with a double whiskey when he has got to a tipsy stage. He used to drink in the house, he would drink atleast 2 bottles of wine and a couple of strong gins/whiskey afterwards, I put a stop to this and he rarely drinks in the house now.
He has calmed down considerably since being together and doesn’t tend to go out as much on the weekend evenings but will go out in the day time, say lunch and come back around 6 and goes to sleep quite quickly, snores all night. We have had many arguments all caused by him being drunk and I have tried to end the relationship twice as I was done with the arguing, each time he has promised to slow down, only drink when he goes out and to stop the arguing, true to his word there hasn’t been any arguing since but, I still hate the drinking, I’m not a big drinker, my grandfather was an alcoholic and hearing the stories of how my family suffered at the hands of his alcoholism has put me off for life! I can’t shift how uneasy I feel when he drinks, he isn’t and hasn’t ever been violent and is amazing when sober, but he can go out 3 times a week, spend £60 a time, come home stinking of alcohol, it’s my least favourite smell in the world, conks out to the point you can’t wake him and just generally gets on my nerves for no other reason than for being drunk, I honestly hate it. I have been thinking for a little while that this isn’t what I want, the sober him is everything but that drunk him 3 times a week isn’t worth it. AIBU about this?