To ask the most immature or spoiled behaviour you've seen from an adult?

[HellaFitzgerald]

Today, in the supermarket, I saw a woman (I actually heard her before I rounded the corner and saw her, to be accurate) of about 40 loudly berating a man who worked there about something she wanted not being in stock. She then started to jump up and down on the spot stamping her feet like a toddler and then sat cross-legged on the floor in the middle of the aisle, arms folded, bottom lip pouted out. I was mortified for her, the worker, the people witnessing it, for everyone involved. It was so bizarre (though I was secretly glad to witness it as everyone on here always shares bizarre stories from people in public and I always feel left out I'd never seen anything before)

So, I have only had a couple of immature moments: Both during COVID. I went the local supermarket shopping for the week. I got to the canned food aisle and reached for the last cheapest tin of beans on the shelf /// my hand was on it. Woman screaming in my ear that it was hers as she was there first ... no she wasn't . I said if it means so much to you, you take it; to which she went into my fire mode and said I was being facetious!!! I just walked off and left the can of beans on the shelf. 2nd Incident: Local shops, everyone in masks ... 10+ people in the queue I was being served. This woman says to me "would you mind if I go first -- I just need a packet of chewing gum and I don't want to wait. She was right in my face without a mask. So I asked her to step back ... she was blazingly rude // I asked if she had a child in her car and she said 'No' - I asked why she wasn't wearing a mask and she said that she didn't need to as she was exempt ... REALLY ... you are not wearing a Lanyard to that to that effect and also here are another 9 people B4 you in the cue. All over some chewing gum .. I was incensed.

You've conveniently missed out the part before that specifically talking about people with personality disorders such as psychopathy.

Clearly the post wasn't even talking about people with mental illness at all.

Obviously, personality disorders exists. Not everyone is nice or has a mental illness. There are people out there who are just nasty, and who will be nasty if they think they can get away with it or have lost their tempers.

Nothing to do with people with mental illnesses. I work in the law and have met more than my fair share of psychopaths, but people tend to forget that while many criminals are psychopaths, many psychopaths are not criminals. Women are often under-diagnosed, simply because they tend to be less violent.

I would hope that if you had worked in mental healthcare, you would have some knowledge of DSM V or its forerunners, and of the myriad of conditions listed and described within the Cluster B disorders, most of which are untreatable and are characterised by a lack of remorse and shallow effect.

Apologies for the lecture, but its best to wary and not always assume the best. I know its very trendy to label people right now but your post and my response to it are general and not diagnosing any particular individual, so I feel it appropriate to comment.

Heres an easy link if anyone is interested in a quick description of these types of traits: www.mentalhelp.net/personality-disorders/cluster-b/

A young woman once balled her fists and drummed her heels like a toddler while in the dental chair because something hadn’t gone her way.
I was shocked at such a childish reaction from a grown woman.

Quite.

Several bad temperini...

Sounds very much like either a learning disability, SEN or mental health issue to me. I perhaps wouldn't be so quick pass comment and perhaps ask if there is anything you could help with

At one of our NCT meeting one of the Dada to be was giggling like a teenager at any mention of boobs or lady bits -obvs they are mentioned quite a lot in NCT meetings one whole class is dedicated to breast feeding I was embarrassed for his other half!

Weird! It sounds like she had some urge to be the one controlling your life... every time you started to, she had a huff.

You sound like me 💐

My sister had ten years of being a spoilt only child and forty plus years on thinks this is still the case. I could fill the thread with her antics, but two spring to mind.

She wanted to take our mum, uncle and me to the Rosslyn Chapel once when we were visiting. She'd been before, we hadn't, and were unlikely to go again. Uncle was driving. She was furious we dared to want to look at the displays (only a couple of rooms plus the Chapel itself) as she'd seen them before, so stormed off and sat on a bench outside, playing every ringtone on her phone in turn, loud enough that we could hear them inside. We weren't the only people there. If it weren't for mu uncle being there my mother would have insisted on leaving to appease her, which shows why she is the way she is.

Mum had a set of books she'd kept at her mum's til she moved into a care home. Not in any way valuable. When she took them home she said I could have them, having checked with sister she was OK with it

Despite, one could argue, it being nothing to do with her, and Mum actually bought her a set of the same books shortly after. Following tradition they stayed at Mum's house until she moved, when I took them away. That evening my mum rang. My sister had noticed I'd taken the books and thrown a mighty screaming tantrum, saying that she'd thought the books were hers as they had been kept by her room (that she'd moved out of 15 years earlier), so mum said I had to return them. The fact I found this incredibly hurtful was immaterial.

But didn’t you already have a set of the original books?

It was "my" set for books that I took, not hers. Her set was at her house whilst mine had been kept at mum's.

More recently, she demanded mum's church return a bookcase mum had given them many years ago. It is a large, but not valuable, item of furniture which has been modified to fit the rectory. Both of us were asked at the time if we wanted it, neither had room and still don't. Yet she has now decided she wants it and has upset many people in the process *which sounds unbelievable but knowing her I can well believe it).

I was at a Whole Foods, and walked up to a checkout line where there was already kind of a terse back and forth between a man and a woman going on further up in the line. I came in late so I didn't know what sparked it, but they were clearly strangers and both apparently had hair-trigger tempers.

When the woman checked her lunch area purchase out (so this is hot food instead of getting regular groceries), there was some kind of issue with her card. The guy said something snarky under his breath (I couldn't make it out but the tone and timing just... you know) and she turned around and dumped her plate of macaroni and cheese on top of his head! He kind of smiled at her, picked up the paper plate she dropped, and threw as much of it as he could back at her. She stormed out, he paid and left doing a weird kind of chuckle that sounds like he was doing it to suppress rage, and everyone was stunned. I asked the cashier if she was okay and she just shook her head in the way that said "I'm fine but WHAT. JUST. HAPPENED.

When I was I at school in the 60s I will never forget the headmaster being called to sort out an argument between two boys behind me, he came in chucked a ruler he had in his hand just missing my head and was shouting so much his false teeth flew out, 🤣

Until forced to by me when we visited my 96 year old nana my dad used to proudly tell people he'd never taken a Covid test. Well done Dad, especially given how many "colds" you had in that period.

@JaneorEleven , if someone had a holiday booked, I don’t see what’s wrong with delaying a funeral - of course the body then has to stay in the undertaker’s ‘cold storage’.
My DM (97, advanced dementia) died 10 days before a dd’s big wedding do in France - the whole family was going to be away for at least a week, and it wasn’t possible to arrange the funeral beforehand. We held it 10 days after we were all back - and I know my DM’s pre dementia self wouldn’t have minded at all.

When I was a teen my boyfriend at the time was learning to drive, so he would come pick me up for practice and his dad would sit in the passenger seat and give him guidance/tips - and I’d sit in the back.

His dad was not a patient man and would frequently get annoyed at boyfriend if he made small mistakes. Berating him and criticising him. Fortunately boyfriend was a very conscientious driver and quite chilled out so took it on the chin.

One afternoon, about 3 days before his test, we were all stuck in traffic that was barely moving and had been like that for some time. After we’d moved about 2 feet in 5 mins, boyfriend briefly looked at me in the rear view mirror and cracked some silly joke to lighten the mood, and I laughed back. But his dad absolutely lost it, shouting and accusing him of not taking it seriously before his test and being destined to fail. Boyfriend was shocked and apologised, explaining as he was basically stationery he felt safe and hadn’t taken his eyes off the road etc. His dad got angrier and eventually stormed out of the car saying ‘he didn’t feel safe’ and walked all the way home.

BF was so upset he pulled over and cried, and teenage me was shocked and didn’t really know what to say as I comforted him. Back home his dad was perfectly pleasant to me and boyfriend’s mum but ignored his son all night. I couldn’t believe how a man in his 50s could be so nasty to his son. Boyfriend he told me his dad ignored him for 3 days afterwards, and only spoke to him again properly after he passed the test. They’re no contact now, no surprises there.

My mum being hammered at around 2pm in the afternoon and falling all the way down the stairs then getting up and screeching at my dad who was quietly watching TV that it was his fault. Epic tantrum !!