To think that people who live semi detached houses shouldn't buy their kids drumkits

[QueenCake]

Hi first time I've posted here but having been woken by neighbours child practicing drums at 7am I am feeling wholly unreasonable about everything.

We had our first rendition on Boxing day and have enjoyed (endured) weekly drumming sessions ever since. They are not normally noisy despite being a large family and our semi's are old so not paper thin walls.

However we might as well have mini Phil Collins in our living room. Last week I had a migraine and my husband was working from home and trying to have a con call when the mindless thrashing started up.

Why do people think it is OK to inflict their children's musical inability on everyone? Fortunately my children have never shown any inclination to play anything but I might invest in a tuba or encourage an interest in the kettle drum.

Should I complain?

I am not sure that you should complain...perhaps a friendly word to begin with...

"We hear you got a drum kit for Christmas and you have been practicing alot"...

That's your first shot...save the ammunition for later but only if you need it

Take up opera and wail through the walls at 6am

how about suggesting time limits say after 9am and to stop at 9pm there are also special rubber/plastic pads to go on drums to make the sound less but the player can still get the feel of the beat

hopefully the novelty will wear off

I do think that they should stick to certain times of the day for practice. Anything before 9am is definately too early.

Claricebeansmum's suggestion was good. They might not realise just how noisy it is.

My DB bought DS a drum kit last Christmas. Bastard. But I will soon have revenge as he will be a Daddy this summer. Anyone know a toy that is really irritating?

sorry - just the heading made me smile!! I have a neighbour who turns on the hoover at 9am every day and hoovers for about 2 hours!! They have alot of cats but boy when I have a headache it really gets on my nerves!!

now there are 3 posts with this heading!!

My parents have ajunior drummer next door as well. Unfortunately he doesn't have a great sense of rythm1
On the bright side he doesn't practice religiously either so its not too bad.
The people who lived there before had a clarinet playing 11yr old who did practice and Mum quite enjoyed hearing tunes become recognisable (jingle bells) or at least familiar!
I think the time is unreasonable, but you can't ban drumkits and electric guitars or what would we all by for our nephews!!
Kindersurprise - anything that doesn't have an off switch!

our neightbour chops wood
we went round once and said could he please stop at 10pm as it wakes the boys up and he has done (before that it was 2am)
just have a word (time limits)
my two sons play the guitar but only for a hr after school

I have just posted re neighbour noise trouble! You have my sympathies!

Queencake, yanbu. 7am is ridiculous.

PS. Anyone who sees me posting in next 2 hrs please have a stern word- am supposed to be studying for promotion exams

Yanbu. Have a word with them about reasonable times - 7am is definitely not OK. DS1 has a drumkit and we're very strict about when he can play it and how long for...and are still on good terms with the neighbours! He also has practice pads that mute the drums so he can practice quietly if nec - maybe you could suggest this to your neighbours...

yanbu
We live in a semi and one DS is DESPERATE for a drum kit. But Ive told him he can only have one when we've had the garage converted (which is on the furthest side away from next door) so that he wont disturb our neighbours. And even then I'll get him the practice pads.
I think we all have a responsibility to try not to make our neighbours lives a misery.

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Thers only one solution.............start playing the bagpipes (badly).

On a more serious note though I'm sure they won't have a problem with you mentioning that 7am is a bit early and suggesting a more reasonable time.

I entered the thread ready to complain that people who live in semi detached houses shouldn't have laminate flooring in a 30-foot long thru lounge and then encourage their dcs to play horsey horsey up and down till 11 o'clock at night.
But suitably chastened, I now withdraw discreetly, as actually I hoover my downstairs at 7.30 every weekday (9am at weekends) and see from above I am unreasonable.
So I shan't complain about the horsey horsey games, and they better not complain about my hoovering (well, they've got to get up for work anyway!).

Agree, if you do not live in a detached house, don;t buy your kid a drum kit. Or maybe if you have a garage that would be ok.

They are too fucking loud. It is obv

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for this reason I bought dd electronic drums (so they plug in their headphones) but the neighbours will hear the thump of the bass pedal on the floor. Fortunately it's at my ex's flat for the time being.

However 7am is completely unreasonable.

I was only allowed to practice my recorder in the shed.

My parents were 100% supportive of my musical ambition.

I don't mind hearing the telly, the pets, diy, celebrations.

Drums, no

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I live in a semi, and I've bought my 2.9yo a violin - but he only plays it in the room away from the party wall!

Does your semi have any rooms that are not attached as this would also be an option if he still wanted to play at 7am - but I definitely think that practise pads sound a really good idea, and I would have thought that it would be better for their son's hearing anyway - might be a way of introducing it!