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To want to live alone

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ChellyT · 29/08/2022 03:16

I'm F 49 with my grown children (DD 32 and DS 29) both still living at home and the kicker is they both have a child who also lives FT at home. I'm tired, I want to live alone, I've even thought I'd like to downsize from my large house to a small flat closer to the City...

My DD has recently had quite a medical episode and was in hospital for 3 weeks. She has a partner and he is the father of my grandson but they choose not to live together fuck me right! My DS is a single dad with a young daughter that needs my assistance getting her to and from school as my DS works approxi 12 hour days M-F to get a head and he is but still needs help with his little one.

I'm just tired of everyone still at home. My ex is a dick wad and thinks our adult children are some how helping me out financially (I wish! they do pay a modest weekly rent, shop for groceries and pay for a fortnightly cleaner). They see their father once a month and it's never a joyful event. I love my two and their children, we holiday together, we eat out together, go to festivals/carnivals together but I just want space.

My friends say I'll miss them and the noise when they leave but I dream of moving closer to the City while still catching up with them weekly. I find myself making plans just about every weekend to get out/away and have not brought a man home as I don't want one of my GC asking questions or walking in on something...

AIBU? I would prefer them both to move into a property/house/unit with a mortgage over paying someone else's mortgage ie renting but with the way property prices are going they just might have to look at rentals?

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halfsiesonapotnoodle · 29/08/2022 17:26

Any of these suggestions any good, OP?

Givemesunshines · 29/08/2022 17:41

How.about they live in the house but pay yr rent in a flat together the two.sets of them.?
That way you get yr space and they get the use a big house ( bit pay yr rent half each so.its a cheap ish deal.for.them.) that way you can also.test pit what it is like to.live in a flat and alone !

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