To feel less of a woman....

[malificent7]

Because I'm not broody and not that great at motherhood? I have dd (14) who i had alone and she's lovely but i found it very hard.

I do go through broody phases, especially when i hold a new born but I am 44 and enjoying my freedom. It's prob too late for me anyway. All the new mums just seem so content but i never felt like that...it was a huge shock to my system.

Dp is lovely and has his own teen dd, hes the best dad and we both feel we should focus on our teens.

I just feel. a bit confused as I held a new born today and felt a bit smitten, sad as im not having any more but relieved to have made that decision...then worried it's not the right decision.

Be a bit gentle as posting on here for traffic.

I’m 32 and my DD is the same age as yours.

I love my DD she is honestly my entire world but I don’t think I have a maternal instinct like other women do.

When I see babies I think they’re cute but all I see is hard work and responsibility.

I feel bad that my DD is an only child and if I could go back in time then I would consider having a second but there’s no way I’d have any more children now even though I’m technically still young enough to do so.

You are not alone OP.
Enjoy your lie ins and free time which you wouldn’t have with a baby.

Well, in that case, I must be a man, because I'm 43 and have never felt 'broody' in my life - I'm childfree by choice.

FFS, this sort of shit is what holds us all back: have kids, great, don't have kids, also great, but the reality of your XX chromosomal type is not defined by whether or not you've reproduced.

I've no children and many of my friends have never had children. We are all completely fulfilled women.

I am firmly of the opinion that many women would be happier child and husband free in this misogynistic environment.

The planet doesnt need us to keep having kids, there are more than enough humans around.

You are a mammal, it's just hormones. It will pass and you'll feel relieved.

I couldn't pay me a billion dollars to have more kids. I have one DS and never wanted any more. The idea fills me with dread.

Of course my DS is the best thing that's happened to me. But I found motherhood hard and was sort of glad when newborn days were coming to an end.

I get it. I never felt this way either. I’m always a little jealous of all the moms that found joy in such things when I simply found them things I had to do as a mother (and a single parent)

I also got broody in my late 30s and 40s I think because I wanted another chance to be one of those moms that was so enamored with motherhood. Plus I was with someone new and I wanted to experience raising a child with a partner.

i never had another child and sometimes I’m sad about it even in my 50s but I’m also glad as I didn’t overly enjoy parenthood like so many others.

I've got two kids and never been broody in my life.

I am 45 and don't have children. Never wanted them, never felt broody. Although I have a step son I enjoy spending time with.

Last time I checked I was still a woman.