EBFing my DC2 (9 weeks) and it has been a journey and much harder in comparison to DC1. Lots of slipping off the boob, spluttering, gagging and feeding is just generally unpleasant. We had tongue tie snipped recently but this has not made much difference (suppose the seal is slightly better). However I feel the bigger problem here is oversupply, DC really struggles to keep up and often pulls off to catch breath and milk trickles down side of face soaking us both.
I am aware of different advice around managing oversupply but DC1 is also very young so I don’t have the time/chance to feed lying down or even lying back. We are also out and about a lot to keep DC1 entertained and the feeding is just miserable and difficult in public. I am starting to feel really depressed and low mainly because I cannot get DC2 to take a bottle (there was some intermittent bottle acceptance with MAM teats though but it takes a while to get there). All I want to do is move to bottle feeding a mixture of ebf and formula so that DC2 can feed easier and more happier. But feel totally trapped as when I do offer the bottle there is so much reluctance and tears. However family members have suggested if we did move to bottle DC2 would eventually get used to it. So my questions is, AIBU to only offer bottle going forward, knowing there will be tears and difficulty? Thank you x