Partner smoking weed

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We have a small baby (under 6 months) old. My partner smokes weed, usually after we've all gone to bed which I don't tend to have a huge issue with although being a non weed smoker myself I would prefer if he didn't but it doesn't really affect us if its after myself and the baby are in bed. He quite often will take the baby out for a walk on the weekend to give me a break and let me catch up on some sleep. He will smoke weed when he's taking the baby for a walk. He's a very doting, attentive father and does most of the cooking and helps out around the house and he is never incapable of caring for the baby when he has smoked but I am genuinely interested to know whether I am being unreasonable to not be very happy with it or whether others wouldn't find it a big deal?

Raise your standards. It's a big deal.

Of course it's a big deal.
Are you not very bright, being purposefully obtuse, or just really goady?
You don't smoke or vape normal stuff around kids, so weed, crack, heroin etc is inadvisable...

It’s a big deal. And I say that as someone with a medical license for marijuana. I don’t smoke it, anyway—just use drops. Smoking of any kind is very antisocial. I use mine for insomnia, so administered well after the kids are in bed.

Does he smoke because of boredom? Stress?

Funny you posted this.

I have a DP who smokes weed and our youngest is under 6 months old. He stays up with our youngest every single night and puts him in the cot once DC is asleep. The other night DC woke up as he wasn’t really settled. Texted DP to come and get DC and no response. Went to the living room and saw he wasn’t there.

When he came back to the house, he said he stepped outside to smoke. I went ballistic tbh. I don’t care about smoking but I don’t like him smoking when he’s at the house. When you’re with your friends doing whatever I don’t care. In his defence he didn’t know DC would wake up and he’d have to stay up with him but it isn’t the point.

So the fact that your DP is smoking whilst taking the baby out in the buggy or whatever is so ridiculous. Does he not go elsewhere during the day and can smoke there? I don’t get why they don’t understand smoking around/when you’re with a baby just doesn’t make sense. Regardless if it’s weed or cigarettes

Of course this is a big deal

I am hoping you're extremely young hence this question because anyone with a degree of sense would know this isn't ok

Actually weed is probably worse because you’re literally getting high when you’re with your baby. It doesn’t make sense

He smokes weed whilst walking his DC?

Fucking hell, raise your standards, leave him and fight for visits to be supervised.

He takes the child out "to help you", it's his child as well!

OP,I left my Ex husband for this among many other reasons.I don't buy into this 'relaxing' weed sentiment and never will. I've seen paranoia,aggression,and most significantly with young babies around,REALLY deep sleeps.

I would suggest you ask your partner to decide on his priorities.

If he continues to smoke,make a better,safer life for yourself. Wish you all the best xx

It will only get worse. Weed smokers are so selfish nothing else matters to then eventually. That's my experience anyway

The "are you dumb?"/"are you young?" posters - you sound like absolute bitches.

OP, if you're bothered enough to be posting about it, yes it's a problem. Smoking when actually with the baby is a problem IMO.

(But don't take offence at the posters who have been nasty to make themselves feel good for some reason. Wouldn't be surprised if they or their partner neck half a bottle of wine a night)

Considering the tone of the post it does sound like the OP is very young

And if not that's even more worrying

DH and I don't drink but If you can't understand how half a bottle of wine is different to smoking an illegal drug around your child that doesn't paint you in the best light either

Are you saying a parent walking down the street swigging from a wine bottle wouldn't raise eyebrows and even get SS/the police called?

I think nightly binge-drinking is as damaging as weed-smoking, and neither should be done while looking after children.

Smoking weed and being high whilst out alone with your baby is really not good. Weed slows your reaction times, similar to being drunk, so if something was to happen he couldn’t be trusted to respond quickly and appropriately.

Can’t believe you’re questioning this tbh!

Evrn here where recreational marijuana is fully legal, it’s illegal to smoke it on sidewalks. Raise your standards and don’t waste your time on someone with no respect for your child or the law.