My 2yo has been sick for the last week and I've been up every night. It started as being up every hour all night, so no sleep at all for 2 nights, and gradually as she's improved I've been getting up about 3 times the last couple of days. Cumulative tiredness means I'm feeling knackered and have caught toddlers cold. Husband said that on Friday night he would do all the night wake ups so I could try and get a solid nights sleep, and that I could have a long lie in and shower.
Last night he drank too much (2 beers and a bottle of red) whilst watching tv. He was obviously drinking a lot and I asked if he thought he would be sober enough to do night wakings. He said yes.
However last night 2yo was crying and husband absolutely dead to the world. I couldn't even rouse him so I ended up doing 3 night wakings myself as the time it would have taken to get husband awake and standing up DD would have been too distressed. Then at 6.45 when toddler woke up I read her books in our bed and still husband didn't wake up. Eventually toddler started patting him and shouting dada which I didn't stop. He has spent morning hung over. I told him to shower and sort himself out and gave him paracetamol water and coffee as if I didn't he wouldn't bother and then would just be even more useless.
It's now 9.30 and I'm going to have a shower by myself. Husband is going to take toddler to soft play and park. He's currently slumped on the sofa watching too many cartoons with toddler. I've made a packed lunch for toddler so they can stay out until nap time. I've packed toddlers bag so everything is ready - all he had to do is walk out the door.
I feel furious and resentful. When I said right I'm going upstairs now he said I'll see you before we go out won't I? And I said no, I'm going to have a long shower and do not want to be disturbed.
I'm going to take the rest of the morning for myself. I think this is reasonable of me. Or am I being a grumpy cow?