To not be friends anymore?

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We have been friends for years.
We are very different-she likes staying home everyday,she hasn't got a job and lives with parents (she's nearly 40)
Im the same age and like to get out and about and this has caused some issues.
If I go out with friends /holidays she doesn't like it.
I have to text her first or she won't text me-but then will go in a mood that I haven't text her.
I've gave up asking her to go for a coffee or lunch as it's always a no.
She has a online boyfriend in America and she keeps up till 6 am uk time then sleeps till afternoon (so I'm assuming is always tired so can't be bothered to go out )

Yesterday she sent me a long ranty text asking what she had done wrong? Why I haven't asked to meet up in months etc
I explained that she always said no etc
She said she misses me etc

Today I text her asking if she wants to catch up next week..
Her response
"I don't fancy next week maybe another time"

Could you be arsed ?

No.

Put her on restricted view on FB so she can't see what you're up too.

Tell her to contact you when she wants to see you.

Live your life and the "friendship" will come to a natural end

I remember your other posts, why are you still bothering?

This isn't a case of social anxiety or waiting for your friend to heal, she's just lazy and can't be arsed and will never change.

Dear God, how could you be bothered. Surely you'd only be agonising over whether or not to maintain the friendship if you were short on friends yourself and it was her or nothing. You don't seem to be short on friends as you have others, so bin her off.

If she hasn't made an effort, why should you...?
Just do nothing... I expect it will fade away

Text her 'you can't be missing me that much then. Let me know when you can be arsed to make an effort'. It will probably end the friendship but it doesn't sound like much of a loss.

No, I wouldn't be arsed!

Is she agoraphobic?
Either way she's not a good friend

No I couldn't be arsed. Even if she has issues with going out (lots of people do) she could say 'would you fancy coming here and ill put lunch on for us? Would love to see you and have a catch up!'

"Today I text her asking if she wants to catch up next week..
Her response
"I don't fancy next week maybe another time" "

Respond with "and that's why I stopped asking to meet up with you". Then just don't bother contacting her again. Block on facebook so you don't see her shitty moans. Block on your phone so you don't get a ranty text in 3 months time. Get on with your life and don't look back.

No and I would unfriend her or mute her on Facebook.

Good grief she sounds like the most tedious drain on your time. I would reply saying that you are fed up with her constant moaning, that you are always expected to be the one to make contact and organise things only to be continuously knocked back and that your friendship is now at an end. Then block the soul sucking bore!!