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More of a what can I do? CoL related.

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Firefin · 26/08/2022 10:12

I have recently (a few months ago) moved into a mid-terrace, bought with what little money I had to escape the insecure and expensive rental market. The house I bought is lovely, though it needs a lot of work and I am slowly working my way through it - I DIY what I can and get the experts in to fix any major issues and bits that should have been done a long time ago - like meter fitting, gutter clearing etc.

The house has been empty for a few months prior to me moving in and was a rental before this, with a landlord who appeared to do things on the cheap and without much skill.

Both my neighbours are lovely, but having just moved in I am at a point where I can say hi, but not have big discussions.

However, there are some issues emerging which affect my property.

The guttering on one of my neighbour's sides needs fixing - the actual end bit is missing, so water pools in the gutter and then pours directly onto the fence between our houses (no doubt leading to eventual rotting of the same; it is my responsibility) and onto my property - like a continuous open tap raining down onto the stone slab from a great height, making it impossible to sleep with the window open if it's raining due to the noise and again no doubt eroding the rock over time.
This neighbour also doesn't clean their guttering, to the extent that plants are visibly growing out of the top now, no doubt making the problem worse as water can't drain properly.

The neighbour on the other side is old and disabled, which no doubt adds its own issues.
Their fence (between our houses, their responsibility) is falling to bits and wood is now actually bulging onto my side of the garden, in addition to the huge holes appearing due to their cat, which also likes to chill out (poop, vomit) in my garden.

Neither side mows their front gardens, which had no boundaries between them, and I am in the process of putting a cheap metal border up to at least somewhat protect my front garden from the ever-encroaching weeds.

Both neighbours are lovely on first glance, but I have no doubt that the current cost of living is adding massively to their inability to fix issues in and outside of their houses.

Having my gutters cleaned cost me £60, getting new fencing for the bit that was broken was almost £1000. I do my own weeding, gardening and I do DIY many internal issues.

The area is generally quite a poor one; in that it feels like I can't just demand my neighbours shell out £100+ for issues which are on their side of the boundary, but affect mine iyswim.

How, if at all, would you approach this? I am thinking of putting a fence on my part of the housing boundary against the one that is falling to bits, but given their wood is bulging that would make my area of land smaller than it already is. I have no idea how to solve the guttering issue for myself and I don't have the time to do the front gardening for both of them to protect my own land.

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WhiskerPatrol · 26/08/2022 10:16

I would have asked whoever cleaned your guttering for £60 to reach along and fix the little bit of your neighbour's guttering that overhangs your fence. And I would see what help you can offer to the elderly disabled neighbour.

I don't understand about huge holes appearing due to the neighbour's cat. Is it a lion?

Skethylita · 26/08/2022 10:19

Fixing the guttering would require an actual part - they seem cheap enough for just a few £; I can ask the men who will be doing some more work on my roof soon whether they can fix that, good idea.

Neighbour's cat is out most of the day and I have seen it claw its way through the holes it's already made, almost like it's using the fence as a scratchpost if that makes sense.

Firefin · 26/08/2022 10:23

Well there was a NC fail XD

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WhiskerPatrol · 26/08/2022 11:46

I mean this nicely but I don't think this is a juicy enough topic for a name change Wink anyway, yes you might have to pay for the guttering repair but if it's just the end cap that's missing those cost less than a fiver, and I'm sure the overall cost will be less than a new fence!

Does your elderly neighbour have any visitors? If they have support from family or friends you could try to get to know those people then ask them about the fence and garden. And if you have a lawnmower I would offer to mow the front gardens on both sides - if the houses are terraced it shouldn't take long.

Firefin · 26/08/2022 12:40

Haha, it's more that some of my other posts, all stitched together, could give away quite a bit of info 😅

One neighbour (the guttering one) has a son who appears to mainly just drop his young children off, not sure whether they are just summer childcare or whether that is a more permanent thing. I will look into whether all guttering is universal in size and order a stop cap before work is being done on my house.

I have never seen a visitor for the elderly, disabled neighbour, so not sure who looks after them; they are also barely ever out of the house.

I don't have an electrical lawnmower, mine is hand push only, so even a small patch takes about an hour to do well and while my children are with me I don't have the time to spare for that. After the children have gone back to their dad's I'm also back to work.

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lamaze1 · 26/08/2022 13:02

Re the fence rather than putting it against the existing one, if you're going to the expense of a fence just ask the neighbour if they're willing to allow you to replace it. Show them what you're proposing panel wise. We did that with our neighbours who were happy for us to replace. It also meant we now have the same fence both sides of our garden.

Firefin · 26/08/2022 16:49

Yes, that would be an easier solution, but the fence is not just a fence, it is also the back of a shed/ building structure and frankly I can't currently afford a new fence anyway, nor to potentially replace the entire shed they have on their side - and should I have to, really? I don't have a lot of money left after the move and completing the basic repairs needed.

I have got some wire mesh today, which will at least prevent the cat from going through the holes and possibly prop up the back a bit. I might be able to plant climbers against that to sort the asthetic side of things and going by what I have seen from other climbing plants, they can add quite a bit of structural support.

Is there a way of finding out whether my neighbours own or are tenants/ council tenants? Bar asking them - again, I would find that quite rude to include in a conversation so early on. But it might help with whoever else I can possibly approach to help sort things.

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lamaze1 · 26/08/2022 19:22

Ah ok.

Re ownership, a land registry search (on the land registry itself, not one of the companies that advertise they will do the search for you) can be done online and costs about £3.

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