To think my pension is safe from ex.

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Recently split with ex. We’ve been together for more than 15 years, own a house together (joint tenants) but not married, no children.

He hasn’t worked much for the last 7 or so years, has no private pension, is in his early 50s now. I got fed up with working crazy hours to cover mortgage and bills on my own, and also having to do all the cooking and cleaning because he ‘didn’t notice’ despite me asking him, so I broke up with him.

I’m happy to sell the house and split 50/50. He’s saying he should get more because I earn more and don’t need the money as much. He’s also told me that he’s entitled to a share of my pension.

Please tell me he hasn’t got a leg to stand on?

You weren’t married, he’s therefore definitely not entitled to your pension.

If not married then he is not entitled to your pension.

Not married = not entitled

No leg to stand on in terms of the pension.
In terms of the house it will depend on what was agreed at the start, or what you mutually agree on, or what a court decides.

No married, no kids, joint tenants, house will go 50/50 and your pension is yours.lazy sod can do one!

Just as the others said, if you're not married then he's not entitled to anything of yours except his half of the house. It's a shame that you didn't change things when you were paying much more than he was for it.

Yep not married and joint tenants means house is 50/50

Pension sharing is only legally possible on divorce (I.e. not on breakdown of a relationship where the parties aren't married or in a civil partnership). I'm a lawyer in this field.

I can see why you are splitting from him.

Phew, thank you so much. I thought that was the case, but he was so damn sure of himself and it freaked me out.

@OnTheBrinkOfChange , I know! But then even having that conversation with him would have probably ended up with us splitting anyway. He has a very ‘What’s mine is mine, what’s yours is also mine’ attitude when it comes to money.

i don’t actually mind the 50/50 split on the house because it’s hassle-free, feels fair and gives us both enough to move on.

What an arsehole., 😡
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You're well rid OP! Congratulations on the break up!!