To want to stab my sister with the depo injection? (Please read)

[helplessister]

I’m half joking by the way… obviously I’m not actually going to do it.

My sister is in an abusive relationship. We’ve all tried to help her leave but she always goes back to him. Anyone who’s been through this knows how difficult it is to help someone in that situation. We’re trying the best to support her in any way we can.

She’s 21, he’s 30. Together for 2/3 years? They live together in a flat. I have been over once, the door was full of holes. At least he’s punching the door instead of my sister? She claims he’s never hit her but I’m not sure. He has banned the family from coming over and doesn’t like her speaking to us. He stays at home all day smoking weed and expects her to fund his lifestyle. We are seeing less and less of her as he takes more control. I think the weed makes him very paranoid and jealous.

Last year, she got pregnant and had an abortion. He didn’t know about any of it. She said she never wanted kids. We encouraged her to go on contraception, she said she wants to but he won’t let her because it “will make her fat.” 6 months later, she’s pregnant again and he wants to keep it. Did I mention he has at least 2 other kids which he has no contact with? She said she doesn’t want the baby but she wants to make him happy. They have a massive argument and he breaks her phone so she moves in with me. She decided to get an abortion again but told him she miscarried. A few weeks later they’re back together again.

He is not a nice man at all, he tried to intimidate me once and got in my face. She got pregnant again but this time did miscarry. He has accused her of not looking after herself and “purposely killing his babies.” I don’t know how this man has any sperm left from all the crap that he smokes?! My sister said she is secretly relieved but knows that she will have to give him a baby one day.

My mother is heartbroken, my brother and his wife have just had a very late miscarriage so they are really struggling with the whole situation. I feel like I’m the only one who can help her.

It’s all just so frustrating, I feel so helpless.

I have had a situation where a relative has been under the control of a drink and drug taker. I would get them away for a few days then she would go back again. He really hated that I would not be controlled or intimidated by him.
There really needs to be a change in the law so that we can report our loved ones to some organisation (police, social services, women's aid) and get them some help. They are so under the abusive control of their partners that they can not see reality. I have seen people in very forceful type jobs being under the control of layabouts. Another problem is that the worry of watching our loved ones going through all this can and often does have very detrimental effects on our own health.

@TamSamLam i had the implant, I am slim and have skinny arms depending on the way my arm was sitting u could make it out and you can defo feel it under the skin even if ur a bigger lady. I have a friend who was in an abusive relationship(although he didn’t want kids and neither did she so he was more than happy for her to have the implant) they got in argument and the way he grabbed her arm he snapped her implant and she had to go for surgery.

if ur sister did go for a depo jag, it’s every 3months get it done and unless he inspects every part of her body u literally get left with the tiniest dot where the jag goes in