Gaining weight

[Orangeyy]

I feel incredibly disgusted with myself.

I've gained 5 lbs and I'm just so bloody gutted. I work out, go to the gym, I'm active, I eat healthily, but I've definitely fallen into a few bad habits like extra portions, glasses of gin etc. And usually I do a lot of running but I haven't been able to, because of an ankle injury.

I feel like not eating anything until the weight has gone. It's so much harder to lose these days than when I was younger.

I hate myself.

You sound like you have an awful relationship with your body and self image, which is really sad for you. Give yourself a break! You've been enjoying yourself and resting after and injury and you're beating yourself up and threatening to starve yourself! Imagine if someone described you the way you've just described yourself!

Wherever you got the idea that it's okay to talk about yourself this way or to feel completely miserable because you've gained (what is in reality a very small bit of weight) has a lot to answer for.

Don’t hate yourself. It’s only 5 pounds and you’ll shift that once you get back to your normal eating and drinking habits. Not being able to exercise shouldn’t affect your ability to lose 5 pounds. Just don’t put pressure on yourself to lose it in a week or two, as you probably didn’t put it on in a week or two but more gradually.
Forget the self-hate and self blame. You’ve noticed the weight gain in time to be able to get back to your usual weight without too much difficulty. Those extra portions and extra glasses of wine are easily tackled. You’ve got this! 💪💪💐

Why would you be disgusted with yourself? There’s nothing to feel disgusted about.

You're so incredibly kind, thank you for the replies, you're a hell of a lot kinder than I am to myself. I feel like such a failure, I'm shocked with how genuinely ashamed I feel.

Logically I'm trying to tell myself it's not a big deal (and I definitely have more going on than this to worry about) but it feels overwhelmingly crap. My self worth is definitely tied to the scale.

Urg, only myself to blame. :(

Five pounds is nothing. I don’t know if you need to lose five pounds or not, if you are overweight or not, but five pounds is nothing either way. I wouldn’t even register five pounds.

Disgusted because I've been greedy, no self control, lazy, pathetic to keep eating/drinking things that are no good for me - knowing my cardio has dropped too.

I feel paranoid people at work will have noticed and be thinking 'god Orangeyy has got chubby, what a failure'.

It's 5lbs not 5kgs, try to be kinder to yourself and get back on the horse.

You sound like you know why it's gone on, so do the reverse and it'll come off again - cut the alcohol out and cut down the portion sizes.

Is your ankle ok to walk? I can't run at the moment but I can do 30 mins walk daily which I've had to get my head around, if you can then:
grab a water bottle
stick in your head phones
enjoy the fresh air and still getting out and about

Appreciate what you can do, not what you can't x

If one of your friends or family members gained 5lb would you think of them as a disgusting failure?

Be kind to yourself, you’re only human and it is difficult.

Stop being dramatic. It's 5 pounds and absolutely everyone has period of time when they just go bit crazy with food.
"Hate myself, disgusted, bah" is ott reaction.

Honestly, instead of all this, take a deep breath, say "oh well, happens! So now let's do x to get the 5 pounds off. It's fine". Much better approach otherwise you will spend life absolutely unnecessarily giving youself bad feelings about yourself for no good reason.

I feel paranoid people at work will have noticed and be thinking 'god Orangeyy has got chubby, what a failure'.

Is that what you would think if a colleague gained 5lbs?

I recently gained 35kg (77lb). I've lost about 44lb now of that. Not once have I treated myself how you are treating yourself and, to be honest, if anyone made an effing comment either to my face or behind my back then I would just think they're scum and not worth knowing. I literally had some kids laugh at me because of my weight the other day and I just though "omg who raised these vile creatures".

You never know another persons story, be kind to yourself, honestly it was the best thing I ever learned to do for myself. Once you start being kind and loving yourself everything else is easier: especially inconsequential things like a minimal amount of weight loss.

Oh god no, I don't think it would even be on my radar to notice - I would only judge myself in this way.

I know logically it's ridiculous to feel this disgusting but I wish I could cut all my fat stomach off. Now I know I've gained weight, it feels even bigger.

I've just spent two hours at the gym, I'll try and turn it into a positive to break the bad habits I've picked up RE booze/portions.

I've gained a similar amount for similar reasons, and being of small build, I notice it; it affects the fit of clothes, the way my body moves. I will get on top of it, and getting more active through the recovery phase will help as my sedentary energy needs are disappointingly low.

It's mildly annoying, but I'm not disgusting. No one else cares. Some people fluctuate that much within a week. It'll just take me a few months to get on top of it in the same way it crept up.

Food/ drink is enjoyable, but it's primarily fuel for your body. It's hard to be on top of all the time, but I don't "diet", I tweak my habits and adjust one thing at a time. "Adding" a habit such as drinking water and replacing sugary squash is more constructive than banning and cutting and penalising.

Celebrate what your body can do (and even if injured, there's normally something you can do to help with rehab, or something different) and nourish it. It's not something to be disgusted by.