Overthinking hormonal mess or being reasonable?

[mrsrobinsonsmind]

I am definitely the former but wondering if I'm the latter also..

Been with partner two years. We don't live together. Both divorced with teen kids. We are generally very happy and I feel cherished as a rule.

We live an hour away from each other and see each other every weekend and often an evening or night during the week.
We both work full time with long commutes so this suits us at least until kids move out.

So yesterday I was visiting his town on business and had a window of an hour where we had decided to meet for a quick coffee. He was free as was I.
Then we were invited to a family event yesterday evening in my home village. He accepted and was to drive here and home again afterwards.

Because he was visiting me later on in the day he decided to forego our meeting.
No big deal perhaps, but there was a time where he wouldn't have let any opportunity go, to meet up.
I was a little disappointed but got on with my day.
He arrived here for the family event. We really enjoyed it and as always,had fun. He was planning to drive home so didn't have any overnight stuff with him. Again that suited perfectly as I have a noisy and busy house at the moment.

One of my family became unwell and we thought that he may have to go to hospital but he came round after an hour and the Doctor thought he would be ok.
My partner offered to stay in case my brother needed to go to hospital and needed driving... as he wasn't drinking.
After brother came round my partner asked me if he 'needed ' to stay after all.
I told him he didn't and again said that he was willing to stay if needed.

This hurt me as I felt he didn't particularly want' to stay with me overnight.
He went home and I'm disappointed.

AIBU?
Ps I'm a hormonal mess at the moment, irrational and overly sensitive.

Sorry YABU, you said yourself you were fine with him not staying to start with. Poor bloke.

Kindly, I think YABU because he offered to stay despite not having overnight bits and you were originally happy with that arrangement. He offered to stay and you said it was ok not to. Might be different if you had asked him to stay and he refused but that's not what's happened here, he's done what he thinks you want/ are ok with.

I'm definitely overly sensitive about everything at the moment so wondered if that's what was wrong with me. Possibly need some extra TLC lately.
Can I ask why you finished your response with ' poor bloke'?@hashbrownsandwich

YABU. He was willing to interrupt his workday to see you but when the opportunity to see you in the evening - for a family event, not a romantic evening - came up he did that instead - even though it meant a midweek drive of 2 hours.

When there was a health concern he assisted and was willing to stay overnight even though he hadn’t brought his stuff with him.

He sounds very supportive.

Thanks for the reassurance.
I guess as times pass, things settle down and that heady rush of wanting to be together at every opportunity simmers down.
I am also full of anxiety at the moment so I see that I'm not being reasonable.

@mrsrobinsonsmind I finished it with 'poor bloke' because it seems he was doomed if he did, doomed if he didn't.

Wasn't meaning it offensively, just feel sorry for him because he technically wasn't staying in the first place.