AIBU

[kathleen567]

Was working late today until 10pm. Rang my husband on my way home and turns out there’s no food and he hasn’t made any dinner. Wasn’t expecting much , a ready meal would’ve been fine but have now had to go to Tesco express to get a frozen pizza . It’s just gone in the oven now at quarter to 11 so feeling hungry, upset and annoyed.

he finished work at 5pm today so should’ve had plenty of time

Ideally if he's home at 5 he would cook a proper meal and there would be food available for you to heat up but would he have expected you to have got home at that time having not eaten? Many people would have eaten during a break at work.

You need to have a conversation about making sure everyone gets fed and that the load is shared fairly. 'Taking in turns' might not work if it doesn't align with shift patterns.

Plus don't ever not have any food in the house so you/he can't at least put a frozen pizza in the oven, do an omelette, heat up some soup or whatever.

Unless you have literally no spare money, I don't understand people who don't have food like eggs, cheese, beans, freezer food in, we all need to eat every day and sometimes we don't have time to cook from scratch.

What's the usual arrangement when you work that late?

I said that and she did make the dramatic late night visit to Tescos, so yes flounce off is one way of putting it. How does a grown up a) not have food in the house and b) not know whether or not there is food in their own house. Of course there was no need for the late night Tesco visit, she was just doing that to be a martyr.

Has he just sat at home and not eaten himself?

How does a grown up a) not have food in the house and b) not know whether or not there is food in their own house.

Wtf did the DH who was in the house say there was no food?
Nothing 'dramatic' or flouncy about calling into tescos on the way home, what ridiculous hyperbole. Just tedious and tiring at the end of a long day.

She said there was food in the house but who would want to be cooking something at that time, especially when you have a partner at home who could have cooked something for both of them, for her to eat later. Whoever is home first in our house cooks the meal, if the other person is going to be late then he/me will eat when it's ready and the other person will eat when they get home.

Did you have an actual conversation about this at any point?!

Bingo.

This has happened to me before. YABU to only call him on the way home - that was too late. Next time you work til 10, ring him at 5pm to discuss evening meal plans.

I would have assumed my partner would have fed himself if I wasn't home til late and he would have assumed I would have done the same.