Weird Neighbours Interfering in Everything That Happens Here Part 2

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Here is the link to my previous thread

It kicked off again today. I was going out this morning and took several trips to put things in my car.
On one of these trips Mrs Weird came out their house and started shouting at me that I was slamming doors. I don't She said she knows it is me because she has been watching. I repeated that I don't slam doors. She started shouting like a fishwife (with apologies to fishwives). I gave up trying to reason with her and walked away.

It is making life here a misery. Others have or are about to move out. I came back and watched to make sure that I was as silent as possible. Someone arrived in the street and slammed their car door then slammed their front door but I bet I get the blame of that.
I have had more work done on my house and the bits from that work were put in a black bag and into a friend's bin. I am to scared to use the bins here.
Apart from never coming back to my own home, what can I do about this weird obsession about my comings and goings? It is creepy to be told that they are watching me

Wear a camera? Record them all the time and keep reporting them to the council, management company and the police til they stop.

Probably not very helpful but I'd say "fuck off" every time but then I'm an arsehole.
I feel for you as I've had problem neighbours and I know it's a nightmare.
Hope you get it sorted

I would just say something like 'have you ever actually just tried not being a massive fucking freak your entire life??'

Thing with bullies is they only understand their own language. You said in your last post you've always been friendly and polite but it might be time to just shut them down.

I have wondered if being quiet friendly and polite is the best way to be. I do answer them back. I am getting very fed up with this and ready to explode. Others have said to me to drop the "Fuck Off" Phrase but it is not really me. I suppose I ought to try harder.

Just say “go away” on repeat.

"Oh, just go away, you ridiculous hag" is as good as fuck off if you use the right tone.

Also wear sunglasses and earphones, and you can genuinely ignore them.

You are afraid to use your own garbage bins? You've already let them scare you.

Sorry, but you need to be more affirmative in your actions at your own house. Tell him or her to take a hike and mind their own business or you will phone the police for harassment. Set up a security camera on your property.

" I came back and watched to make sure that I was as silent as possible."

Why on earth are you pandering to these weirdos?!

Carry on with your life as you see fit. What exactly are they going to do about it?

Say absolutely nothing, look straight at her, slowly, look her up, look her down, raise your eyebrows, allow a faint smile to land on your lips, these sort of people hate to be ignored but looked down on. I'm a great believer in passive aggression, the very best sort.
Start taking random photos, or at least look like you are doing so, general shots around the area, including their property, conspicuously go and makre a note of their car registration number, you could have some great fun.

Report her as vulnerable to the Council. She obviously has some serious issues.
Or start telling her to shut up and mind her own business..
Get some obvious headphones.. It will be clear you aren't listening to her..

I'd just go in with "I pay rent/mortgage for this place, you do you and I'll do me". It's better to report issues sooner rather than later because you have to document times and issues that happened. I've had issues with neighbours before and we left it too late. The council needed SIX WEEKS of documented issues - I'd get reporting now if I were you or move out.

A friend has a putdown that I think can be appropriate in situations like this. It's "When I want your opinion, I'll ask for it. Until I do, please keep it to yourself."

When delivered very coldly and impassively, it's quite effective.

The Scots have the fabulous "Awa' and boil ya heid", which I love, but it only works in a Scottish accent.

I have tried to speak to the council about this being a situation that needs looked at. I can't really work out if Mrs Weird is under the control of her H or if the 2 of them have the same opinion and they are both weird and overly concerned about what is not their business. Someone said it could be worse you could be her stuck with him 24/7. I wonder if the council would actually investigate. Would contacting the local medical services be a possibility?
I have been trying out the Scottish "Awa and boil ya heid". Sounds like a good line if I get the accent right. Some other good sentences around too. Thanks for these suggestions

I have been given a Council Department to report this to. I do hope that they can do something/anything to help.

If I were you, I'd tell them nothing, don't utter a word to them unless absolutely necessary but carry a little pad and pen with you and as soon as they start speaking stop what you're doing and start writing it down.

It will throw them if they think you're recording evidence. Don't explain what you're doing or why, apart from, if asked what you're doing, say 'what I've been advised to do'. Just once. Don't give them any more information.

I also agree that it would be a good idea to get a ring doorbell.

If they get the message that you won't engage with them and won't put up with any of their shit they'll soon move on to another victim. They're just bored and like to kick off about stupid things for their own entertainment.

I think you're doing a great job so far, OP. Just work harder at not letting them get to you - they are so ridiculously not worth you getting upset over!!

I agree with getting cameras around the house because it sounds like the behaviour is escalating

I am going to look for a body camera on internet. I had my phone ready to video when I have been outside.
I am really worried because I also think the situation is escalating. The man is older than me but he is a tall sturdy person. I have made records with police, social services, the council and others. Too little too late comes to mind.