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Mat leave cover is getting all the credit for my career defining campaign

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Marilynsdoll · 23/08/2022 22:10

So I need an unreasonable check, not sure if this is the right place but it's about returning to work after mat leave, and feeling like I've been unfairly treated, so maybe? Here goes (btw I'm new so not up to speed with all your acronyms and lingo, sorry!)

TL:DR I've not had a major, career defining project returned to me after maternity leave and the cover woman is getting all the credit, affecting my career and professional reputation.

So... I work as a marketing exec and for over a year before I left for maternity leave I was working on a project that was my idea, that I had pitched to higher ups and stakeholders to get approval. This project is fairly ground breaking for my team, I won't bore you with details but for context it should get a lot of attention and respect from the corporate overlords, it has the potential to bring in millions in revenue over the next few years. I spent months and months researching all the content, working to get the project off the ground and through all the office red tape. I spent months more after that developing content with graphic designers and videographers, creating plans for the webpages and writing out all the text for them, getting each approved by the various higher ups. It was a monumental effort from me, having to pitch and get approval at every point, and I got to very near launch time, with almost everything ready to go. Then I went on Mat Leave for 18 weeks, the minimum time my company offers. The woman hired to cover me oversaw creating the page that is to host all this work based on the plans and text that I left her, (webpages are easy to make, we have a team that does it for us, she just had to make sure they followed my instructions) and the creation of the remaining videos (again just making sure the videographers stuck to me briefs), however she did each of them wrong, missing the main point and strategy entirely (not her fault, my manager was fully briefed and should have guided her), but my point is the small amount that she did do had to be adjusted when I got back. Since I got back I have been put on a secondment with another team for 4 days a week doing work that is urgently needed but way below my pay grade, and would have been a fantastic opportunity for one of the entry level employees. The other day of the week I am meant to be working on my project but so far Mat cover lady (who has since been given a permanent position in the team as someone else left, even though it's against company policy, all positions should be posted openly for applicants, no promotions) is still taking the lead on the project, even though she has this new role and should be continuing the work from that person's campaign plans, so it's not like she doesn't have her own work to do. And she's having to be spoon fed by me because she still struggled to grasp the concept of the campaign. What's got my goat though is she gets to give the update in every team and department meeting (up until now all my work has been mostly behind the scenes as it's such a long tailed campaign, now things are finally getting exciting and close to launch I had been really looking forward to finally showing my team all the work I've done), and she is doing the launch announcement both internally and externally, (which I had to edit massively and she's still not getting the strategy right) and my name isn't even mentioned, other than occasionally i get to give an update on the plans for stage 2 of the campaign, which implies I've only just joined the campaign. This is a career defining moment for me but her name is being slapped all over it now it's finally going live and being shared, when she has given a minimal contrubition, and not even done that well. My director seems to have forgotten that any of this was my idea or the scale of my efforts, and talks like it's all mat cover lady's work. I feel like i pushed a boulder up a mountain then mat cover lady pushed it the final 10 yards to the summit, and is getting all the credit. What feels really unfair is had I not gone on maternity leave I would remain in sole ownership of the campaign (and the glory lol). I know I pitched to some superiors so they may have vague recollections of me talking about this campaign, but we're a huge company and that was well over a year ago now (closer to 2) and the project has evolved so much since then it's unlikely they'll even remember me, this project was going to put my name on the map. know I'm probably coming across as super petty but last time I applied for a manager's role I was turned down as my campaign (the only thing I've worked on for over a year) didn't have any results yet as it hadn't launched, so not only do I feel I'm being deprived of the recognition I've earned, but it'll genuinely affect my career prospects in the immediate future no longer having ownership of this campaign. UK law requires that those returning from Mat leave get returned to their old role, but between the secondment and being pushed out of my campaign I feel like this qualifies as not being returned to my role, so would I be being unreasonable to go to HR? Although either way going to HR would burn bridges with my director and likely affect my chances of getting a new role. I also don't want to make the mat cover lady feel bad, none of it is her fault, she's just doing as she's told, it was my manager's job to oversee handing jobs back to me. I'm probably just being bitter and emotional, which is why I need your verdict!

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Foronenightonly22 · 23/08/2022 23:56

You’re been far too nice and passive about this. Don’t be. 18 weeks of a years long project isn’t much. Your managers and superiors shouldn’t be allowing this to happen. You should have been updated on project progress and the project handed back to you on your return.

Don’t let it go. 8 years ago I returned to work and was put in a dumbed down role. I’m still in it. I’m kicking myself but I had a lot of other stuff going on and didnt have the confidence/energy to fight with all the assh**es.

Foronenightonly22 · 23/08/2022 23:58

SavoirFlair · 23/08/2022 22:21

You’re a marketing executive who works on web copy, but you can’t write in paragraphs? That was a tough read

that aside, you need a career mentor as much as you need HR, because your enabling of her behind the scenes is making you a supporter and her into a leader.

Yip agree with this. I do this. I help others and be pissed off when they take all the credit.

Blowthemandown · 23/08/2022 23:58

@Marilynsdoll a couple of things: what does your contract say about returning from mat leave? Doesn’t always say same exact job. Nonetheless, I think first port of call is an upfront conversation with Manager. If you are overseeing, you should take back the updates. Maybe politely say, I don’t want to seem petty, but, I don’t feel I’m getting the credit and it has probably all
been forgotten but it was all my idea, plus I’ve had to fix some of it etc. Write a list of all the bits you want to discuss and ask what can be done. If you don’t get a response you find acceptable maybe look elsewhere? But do speak up calmly and rationally but start with Manager.

ColdCottage · 24/08/2022 00:11

I'd edit what you have written here, send it to your manager and list the actions you would like to happen such as below and asking for a F2F. Maybe suggest the HR could join to assist with any moves which might be needed.

Sitting down with mat cover and working out how it's clearly communicated that this was your project to the wider world

When you will be returning to your old role and how perhaps Mat cover can do her new role and the role you are currently on for 4 days instead as this facilitates you returning to your old position as law requires. Etc.

Have a clear list/time line of your history with the project and don't be afraid to use HR law to gentle let her know that you should be back in that role.

You have got this.

ColdCottage · 24/08/2022 00:13

Marilynsdoll · 23/08/2022 23:09

I may well be coming across as egotistical, I've worked really hard to get where I am and I'm great at my job, but the issue I'm upset over is someone taking credit for over a year's worth of my work, I don't think it's egotistical to want credit where it's due, but i may be wrong, and yeah I totally get that might sound more egotistical than ambitious. And you're totally right about me waffling on, I am in total Yeah rant mode lol, I'm hoping this thread will help me organise my thoughts so I can be more concise if I take this further officially with work. I do wish things were returned to how they were before I left, but that's sort of what's required by UK law, within reason, just trying to explore exactly where this lies, is it within reason?

It's not egotistical it's your hard work. Don't feel bad about owning that. No man would so why should you.

Foronenightonly22 · 24/08/2022 00:16

Ignore the nasty comments about how your post is written 🙄and your ego- you don’t come across that way at all.

I also don't want to make the mat cover lady feel bad, none of it is her fault, she's just doing as she's told

Be fair and not nasty but don’t give too much consideration of your maternity covers feelings. She is after all happy to take credit for your work and allow you to clean up her cock ups.

keep going like this in a few years she’ll be your manager.

How I wish I was on Mumsnet 8 years ago.

Pineappleskies · 24/08/2022 00:16

There's what you can insist on, which you've had advice on, but there is also what you can learn.

It may be worth speaking to suppliers, colleagues and your manager informally to understand others' perceptions of the relative contributions and relative skills and qualities.

This will enable you to approach any more formal discussions with perspective, insight and grace, qualities which are always highly sought after.

surreygirl1987 · 24/08/2022 00:23

You’re a marketing executive who works on web copy, but you can’t write in paragraphs? That was a tough read

Jeez. Is there any need? I have a PhD and write professionally, but I'm sure you'd find fault with my mumsnet posts. It's a chat forum fgs!

surreygirl1987 · 24/08/2022 00:25

OP, I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I'd be furious. You are not being egotistical at all. I would speak to the manager and explain all this, will clear bulletpoints printed off in front of me. Be clear, firm and professional. Then foow up in writing over email, outlining the discussion. If nothing changes, then go to HR.

ColdCottage · 26/08/2022 20:47

How did you get on?

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