How to deal with jealous people?

[Boilingspuds2022]

If you can sense that someone is secretly jealous of you, making snide comments about your lifestyle etc. How would you deal with them?

Would you just actively avoid them or would you pull them up on every snide comment and carry on as normal?

At the moment I just actively avoid but I feel like they’ve noticed this and are getting power out of me ‘getting quieter.’

Everything is going so amazing in my life, everything has fallen into place and it’s taken years to get to this stage. I feel like there’s certain people that have picked up on me getting to a certain level in life and are actively trying to cause drama.

Do I carrying on avoiding them and protecting my own peace or carry on as normal and make sure I pull people up on every bitchy comment?

The same way as on here, just ignore them.

It’s very rare out in the real world though, where most people are pleased if a friend or relative does well.

It depends if you want them in your life.

If you don’t - avoid. Cut them off.

If you do - you can either, pull them up and straight up ask them why they feel the need to comment. Or you can go in with a more concerned approach and ask them how they’re feeling. You’ve noticed some bitchy comments that you don’t appreciate and are concerned where this is coming from.

Tbh, jealousy comes from feeling insecure and unhappy. If this person was important to me I’d try and find the route cause of this but at the same time make them aware how their behaviour is upsetting and affecting you.

For me, it depends on the situation. Someone close to me has always been jealous (weirdly) of my very ordinary, often from charity shops clothes. Yesterday they said pointedly “you do have a lot of dresses, don’t you?”, so I smiled sweetly and agreed. In other situations I roll my eyes or do the MN patent head tilt.

I would avoid them.

It's worth noting that people are quick to jump to jealousy as a cause of unpleasantness - but some people are just unpleasant, full stop.

If it was a friend who I valued a lot and wanted in my life I would have it out with them in a sensitive way.

Otherwise I'd just cut them off. Life is too short.