Ever acceptable to ask kids to be quieter in the garden during the day?

[BillRus]

I feel like a miserable sod but our neighbours moved in about 6 months ago. They are really nice in every other way so I don't want to start any tension unnecessarily.

They have a DD and a DS, twins I think as they looks similar and same age.

They have had friends/ family children round the entire summer holidays (seems like the mum has been looking after a couple of kids for her family / friends during the summer as I believe she's a SAHM)

Anyway, they are out in the front and back gardens rain or shine and the amount of noise these kids create, I've never heard anything like it. Screaming, shouting, squealing ect..

I know it's kids being kids and it's nice they are outside but it's so noisy ALL day.

It's affecting me more than usual as I have a baby and trying to get them to nap through it is proving difficult it's really starting to piss me off but I don't know if I'm unreasonable given its the day time.

I think screaming is unnecessary, but their parents clearly don’t agree.

The screaming is something that can absolutely be clamped down on, but loads of parents don’t seem to be bothered by it.

We have neighbours like this though just one family with 2 children. They are luckily not outside all day, but when they are outside, they are so noisy. I also don’t mind what I think of as normal sounds from children playing, but these children and the parents too, make so much noise. I have never said anything, but actually thinking of moving because of them.

The summer holidays are very almost over and next summer the kids may have changed/play differently.

At this late stage I'd wait and see what happens

YAbu, despite what mumsnet believes you can't tell people what they can and can not do in their own gardens ,your baby will be a toddler next year who may well be a little annoying to the neighbours..

If you've managed to put up with it until now I'd just take a deep breath and soldier on. It's nearly September and they'll be back at school soon.

MN will tell you there's nothing you can do as children can use their own gardens for any purpose even if it means nobody else can enjoy their own.

Screaming can be changed but many parents now aren't bothered about it (especially if they've chucked them outside so they can't hear it). I've tried with the neighbours' kids (who also kick balls at houses and cars and cause damage) and was told to fuck off. All in all I'd probably wait until next summer (unless we get another heatwave, in which case I might politely raise it and hope you have a decent neighbour).

Screaming and shouting - its acceptable to ask them to be quieter.

While I agree to some extent that you can't dictate what neighbours do in their own gardens any screaming and shouting doesn't tend to stay in their own garden, as with loud music and bonfire smoke it has a habit of rattling round the neighbourhood and that's when it can become a problem.

I always think it's a slippy slope when people use the 'it's my house/garden I'll do what I want chestnut'
Consideration is extremely thin on the ground these days and with each generation gets less and less and as the country seems to be craming as many properties as they can into smaller spaces things will only get worse with this attitude.

I don't think I'd bother. Stick some white noise on and do naps at the front of the house instead if it's a problem. Both of mine have slept through stuff like that anyway with a fan or something on.

You can't tell people what to do, but you can ask. For instance ask if they could try to tone it down a bit at a particular time when you're trying to get your baby to nap. If you don't say anything, they may simply not realise there's any problem.

Yanbu - normal playing noise is fine but constant screaming is not. Speak to the parents, they might not even realise you can hear it.

Everyone has different opinions on this, but there's no harm in politely letting them know that their kids' screaming is disturbing you. Just ask if they could please keep it down a bit at X time of day.
There is nothing wrong with asking.

I wouldn't, I would wait it out for one more week - assuming you are in England - and just look forward to the school days.

I would rather not annoy my neighbours unless unavoidable.

My mother used to tell us that screaming and shouting during outside play was only acceptable if we were being abducted or on fire.

One of my neighbours 10 year old grand daughter is 'visiting' more or less 99% of the time...she is the nosiest fucking thing going in the communal garden and they never tell her to pipe down. It was fucking hilarious when their new upstairs neighbour (block of 4 flats) popped her head out her living room window and basically told her to shut the fuck up, stop treating it like it was her private garden and have more respect for the other neighbours. Cue stupid grandparents having faces like stunned mullets. Child has been a lot quieter since, though...

get a vuvuzela and blow it every time they're being noisy.

Or get a vuvuzela and blow it really loudly when they have been in bed for half an hour?

Or just tell them that it's unbearable and that noise is fine, shrieking is not