To think he shouldn’t be randomly knocking on my door.

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I’m a single mum who went for a few coffees etc with a neighbour’s son. It is basically a neighbourly friendship, nothing else has come of it. Usually we communicate by messaging each other but then he decided to start knocking on my door for a chat. He has done this two other times later in the day and again this morning. To be fair is was around 11:30am, I really wasn’t feeling well (have had a strange bug which comes and goes) so was watching telly in what I’d slept in (vest top basically and sarong for decency) and my DC was naked from the waist down.

I didn’t really feel like speaking to anyone so basically said “nice to see you but sorry DC is half naked” and shut the door.

I was probably a bit rude but am I right I’m really pissed off that he thinks he can randomly knock on my door for a chat.

There is a huge team of builders renovating next door but one (who I’m sure aren’t remotely interested in me 😆) but I wondered if he was trying to stake some kind of claim. Every time it’s happened, the builders have been there.

Another time we went out to an evening activity thing and he wanted me to practice with home all night, rather than with the rest of the group.

AIBU? This is odd right?

Next time just tell him to leave you alone. That's all you need to say.

Guessing you don't fancy him back then?

Just text him and say something like sorry for being abrupt earlier, say you weren't feeling well, and that you enjoy your chats (if you do), but you'd appreciate it if he text you first to check if you were decent for visitors.

If he fancies you or not, there is nothing wrong with knocking on the door of anactual neighbour with whom you have been for a coffee.

Only because a lot of people now see it that way. My neighbourhood FB group, when I lived in the city, had large numbers of posts about people incensed about someone coming to the door unexpectedly, and lots of people had a blanket policy of not answering if they did not expect someone. Even more weirdly, lots would not answer the phone if they weren't expecting the call!

A few years ago I saw a stand-up bit some American did about how Italian-American families used to expect people to drop by, and now they flip out when someone is unexpectedly at the door, so I suspect this is a widespread change.

When somebody knocks your door you don't have to answer