This is definitely abuse, right ?

[benandollie]

Someone I know, was telling me about someone they know who's husband will literally do everything for her, if she has sex with him as much as he wants to.

If she doesn't, he gets all pent up with anger and frustration and doesn't help much around the house etc, to spite her. He loses his temper more easily, complains about trivial things and is generally a pain to be around. They argue constantly, unless she's giving him as much sex as he needs.

I don't know the frequency required by this man, but it sounded like he needed it frequently.

It got me thinking that this is a form of abuse.

I'm no stranger to men sulking if you don't give them sex. I always hated it. It really puts me off and having sex to appease someone, feels like you're being violated.

Do all men do this ? How is the partner supposed to want to sleep with someone who's sulking because they said no ?

I bet there are so many women out there just doing it for the sake of keeping their men from sulking. I just don't think that's right.

Discuss.

This is definitely sexual and emotional abuse.
I'm reading more and more about sexual and emotional abuse after realising my husband is doing it to me as well - he's not forcing me to have sex, but basically lectured me on Friday night saying that sex is very important in a marriage and, even though I'm very rarely in the mood for sex, I still want closeness, cuddles etc, that's not what marriage is about and that it has to involve sex as well.

It sounds like this person's husband is treating her as his sex slave or a prostitute - she has sex with him in return for an easier life. It's disgusting!

Disgusting, but no, not all men do this.

I agree with you OP, this is abuse and no-one should put up with it.

I can't really say much more than that, because all the divorced women I used to know had husbands that 'had headaches', and the boot was on the other foot.