ABIU? I don’t know if that’s the correct question. Maybe it’s more, am I too attached? Am I expecting too much?
Myself and DH had our DD in April this year. My DH has always played cricket. When I was pregnant he said he wouldn’t return to playing until I was ready. 2 weeks after DD was born he went off to cricket and that was that. He’s played every week since.
We did have an argument about that and it was all sorted.
I have been going to watch DH play cricket and have made a lot of friends who are also partners. Is become a real community space for us, I do enjoy going.
However, I do sometimes feel a bit better. He works all week, and gets the weekend off. I sometimes feel hurt that he only wants to dedicate 1 day a week (Sunday) to family time.
I sometimes get asked to see friends on a Sunday. DH is more than encouraging for me to go, however I’m really reluctant as I know it’s our only family day.
DH is amazing round the house and helps with all night feeds etc. he is well and truly involved. So it’s not that I’m doing “everything” that’s the issue.
I guess i feel a bit hurt he doesn’t want more time with us. He’s always encouraging me to see friends without DD but like I said I’m reluctant as I long for more family time!
The cricket season ends at the end of September, so I guess we’ll have our weekends back.
We have had many arguments about how I feel, but it’s hard because I do enjoy going. But I don’t feel like it’s quality family time, as I’m there spectating… and still doing the childcare!
I get that DH needs to have stuff that helps him be him. And if I ever have plans he is the first to drop everything to have our DD so I can go off out. But I want him to drop everything to spend time with us all.
Do you think this is hormones? Do I just need to bite the bullet and meet friends on a Sunday. Or do you think I’m right to dedicate Sundays to family time. Pls be kind x