Changing DS in my car

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I changed DS earlier in the car, back seat where his seat is. He's 5. He had to stand up and it was over within a few minutes. It's tricky but disabled toilets are often so rank

AIBU? I was approached afterwards and told there are toilets for that you know! I said they're dirty. She said 'yeah, it's a toilet?'

I said where's your blue badge then? Just to get at her, I know it was petty

She said 'I don't need one love, I'm 65!'

And she slammed the door

PS. I get changed in my car sometimes. Usually when I'm short on time as it's quicker than finding the nearest toilet and public toilets are, as you say, rank.

The car is fine! My youngest was in nappies until he was 8, he had additional needs, i had to change him in the car a few times when he was younger and had accidents, i also found some disabled facilities less than ideal which makes it harder to deal with this situations.

It's fine, you do whatever you need to take care of your DS and it certainly isn't anyone else's business.

Could be useful to get some car window sun blockers to stop nosy fools from seeing in. Useful with all the heat we've been having anyway.

I let my non disabled son wee up against the car wheel over using rancid public toilets. If there are toilets available that aren’t grim I will use them but lately I’ve been shocked by the state of them. He’s nearly 4 and I don’t care what anyone says. I’d have told the CF to fuck off!

He might not care but you need to consider his dignity. Changing laying down is ok but standing up means people can see. It's very hard and yes some disabled toilets aren't nice but he has the right to privacy. The lady is a nosy busybody and she has no right to a disabled space without a badge!

I just cannot imagine any circumstance, let alone a mother changing a disabled child, where I would feel compelled to insert myself and make a snide comment, as this woman has done.

I do get that, but the thing is this, you can't really see anything! The woman that commented, I can't say for sure, but it literally felt like she had a peek into my car when she put her trolley back

My mum changed him recently for me too, as I dealt with my daughter. I couldn't see she was changing him, I only saw her doing something like maybe dressing or putting a child into the seat. You can't see him naked unless you're walking up close and looking in that way

Do you think the dirty floor of a public toilet would be preferable?
There are very few disabled facilities for changing children older than babies in the UK.

I change my 4 to in the car. The motion of the car means she is more likely to have accidents on a drive. She had more dignity getting quickly changed there than getting to a toilet in soaked trousers.

I know there aren’t many changing places in the UK, when I take my cousins daughter out I do the same as her, I use a fold out mat, its stored in a carrier bag so it can be wiped down at home and not get the car boot, changing bag etc dirty.

I know there aren’t many changing places in the UK, when I take my cousins daughter out I do the same as her, I use a fold out mat, its stored in a carrier bag so it can be wiped down at home and not get the car boot, changing bag etc dirty.

The thing is he's very hyperactive and touches bloody everything so when I'm with a wiggly toddling DD it is a bit much in changing rooms anyway.

Well done you for taking your cousins daughter out. Not many people are willing to help with disabled children

Do what you feel is most appropriate at the time OP. I agree that toilets are often less hygienic and desirable than the car.

It's your own car! I change my kids in the back of our car all the time.

Tell the nosy boot to fuck off 🤦‍♀️

I only think of good retorts after the event so - I would’ve screamed at her STOP LOOKING AT MY CHILD YOU PERVERT.

but really would only have thought of saying that 2 hours later