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Bridesmaid dresses

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helloits · 22/08/2022 00:27

This is more of a what would you do post...

So original wedding was in March 2020 but had to cancel less than a week before wedding due to covid. Because of this everything was paid for and sorted. My wedding is now this summer.

I have 4 bridesmaids all the dresses I bought and paid for alterations in 2020. 2 of the bridesmaids and myself still fit into our dresses however the other 2 bridesmaids don't. One of those bridesmaids saw this coming in the lockdown and ordered the same dress in a bigger size (paid for with her own money) but now needs it altering to fit her. The other bridesmaid no longer fits into her dress but fits into the other bridesmaids dress (the one she doesn't need anymore) but also needs altering. Alterations cost £200. Who should pay for these alterations?

OP posts:

Hesma · 22/08/2022 07:10

I paid for all alterations for my bridesmaids dresses

Nobetterthansheoughttobe · 22/08/2022 07:14

Justine878 · 22/08/2022 07:09

If you think the pandemic was just "inconvenient". You really weren't paying attention.

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It wasn't a collective trauma.

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helloits · 22/08/2022 07:15

kkneat · 22/08/2022 07:09

I would have brought the dresses to a seam mistress myself & got the altercations done for less and paid. My daughter had her prom dress altered (it was similar to a bridesmaid) dress for £28 including turning it up, taking it in at waist and ribs, shortening the straps

Wow that's amazing value!

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JenniferBarkley · 22/08/2022 07:15

The bride would usually pay for any alterations.

I think the bridesmaids should split the cost of the extra dress, less whatever they can get for selling the unused one.

That woman really had good foresight and saved a massive problem!

doggiemum247 · 22/08/2022 07:24

You pay. If it wasn't for you getting married, they wouldn't have this expense.

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helloits · 22/08/2022 07:25

JenniferBarkley · 22/08/2022 07:15

The bride would usually pay for any alterations.

I think the bridesmaids should split the cost of the extra dress, less whatever they can get for selling the unused one.

That woman really had good foresight and saved a massive problem!

Yes she is extremely organised thankfully! The other dress can't be sold because it was used to be cut up to make inside bras for the other two dresses.

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PurBal · 22/08/2022 07:26

You pay I think. Sorry OP, it’s super shit. In March 2020 my life was completely different. By the end of the year I was pregnant, and now I have a 1yo. My body shape has changed and I’m 8-10kg heavier. I was a bridesmaid this summer, the dress I wore was 3 sizes bigger.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 22/08/2022 07:29

Baxdream · 22/08/2022 06:35

I couldn't fit in a dress from 2020, surely this isn't unusual! You pay in my opinion

I would find that unusual. It was only 2 years ago. OP tbh I'd pay as most of the time, bridesmaids dresses can't be worn again.

fufflecake · 22/08/2022 07:35

helloits · 22/08/2022 07:06

Thank you everyone. For the person who asked if I was the bridesmaid no I'm not in the bride. I have actually already paid for the alterations it was just in my midnight haze not being able to sleep overthinking everything, one of the other bridesmaids made a comment that I shouldn't have offered or paid so it made me think hmmm what would MN do?!

Oooh she's nasty. No you should definitely pay. Especially as you were ok to cut up one of the dresses.

20viona · 22/08/2022 07:43

Brikdesmaids should pay really as it's their fault they don't fit, however as a bride I would pay because I'm nice like that 🤣

notanothertakeaway · 22/08/2022 07:45

Bride was correct to pay for alterations, definitely

Mummyoflittledragon · 22/08/2022 07:55

As inside bras were made, that’s why the alterations were so expensive.

Goldfishmountainclimber · 22/08/2022 07:58

You pay as the bride.

Albgo · 22/08/2022 07:59

DmitriMendeleev · 22/08/2022 00:33

Your wedding- you pay.

Agree. I think you should pay.

Bollindger · 22/08/2022 08:29

£200 will mean your not a bridezilla, I know you might not like paying, but I think You have a good heart because you did, and hopefully you will all stay friends.

TempName01 · 22/08/2022 08:44

Bride should pay

GlueyMooey · 22/08/2022 09:00

I 100% think you should pay and I think you should offer to pay for the dress one of the bridesmaids has already bought.

londonrach · 22/08/2022 09:04

Bride but this a difficult one.

Ithinkitsenoughnow · 22/08/2022 09:44

Nobetterthansheoughttobe · 22/08/2022 07:14

It wasn't a collective trauma.

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“Collective trauma”. Jesus Christ this country is full of wet lettuces. I wonder what people from 1918 would say if they could see us now 🤦🏻‍♀️

CarolB12 · 11/04/2023 19:28

I don't know what everyone thinks, but Bridesmaid Dresses in Nz, i would highly recommend ART KOLLOCSION.
check it out https://artkollocsion.co.nz/product-category/bridesmaids/

TheBugWife · 11/04/2023 20:46

It's annoying but I think you did the right thing paying.

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