Days out

[3boyshere1]

My son and lovely DIL have four boys who we mind on a regular basis school holidays inset days boys bring off school poorly etc. We see lots of them which my partner and I love. We do all the mundane things Sunday lunch helping in the garden etc. AIBU thinking that we never get invited to the nice things such as going on holidays with them or any special days out that they have such as taking the boys horse riding or going swimming with them. Please be kind thank you

As you spend so much time with the boys, is it possible that your son and DIL think you might have had ‘enough’ of them? In your shoes, I’d casually mention how much I’d like to see them swimming/riding and hope you get invited along. Regarding holidays, I’d just do the same. Maybe your friend Marjorie has just come back from Dorset/France/The Bahamas with her family and says it’s great for children?! Have they ever thought of going there? You’ve always fancied it … Etc etc

Have you told them you’d like to go on some of these days out? Personally I think these are family treat days, but if they new you wanted to come they may not mind inviting you to a few.

Have you tried suggesting a nice day out with them? They might not realise you'd like to go along for swimming or horse riding.

By the way, I would happily take my children swimming/riding etc with my own parents and/or my in-laws. I’ve also been on a good few drama-free holidays with them too so maybe I’m not representative of most of Mumsnet!

@AutumnIsHere21 I do think our holidays would be drama free as well. I get on really well with my son and DIL they are both lovely people x

It is possible that they worry you may have had enough of them and what a break, as you already spend so much time with them. It may be worth mentioning that you’d actually like to join them on a day out too. Honestly I never like to assume anyone wants to spend any extra time with my twins unless they speak up. Our family really love them, but I know they can be exhausting, especially out and about!

Do you ever ask if you can book and take them somewhere special? That's what me and my eldest DD does re my GC. I'm feeling that I've done all the grunt work and nothing particularly special this summer, but it's just how it's worked out. I've booked a panto already for over Christmas.

Just tell them. I lived with my MiL for three years while DH and I saved for a house. We were at a wedding together recently and she berated me for not coming to her house more. I thought she'd be sick of seeing me 😂 so now I know to make sure I'm going over regularly.