Who is BU?

[Tigerteafor3]

Married couple, one DC, going on a city break tomorrow, within a 2 hour drive. Check in is from 3pm.

Person A gets a last minute slot for a wanted but non-urgent appointment for the morning of the break. Booked in last week, checked with Person B at time of booking, all fine. Tells Person B the time of the appointment, and communicated "ready to leave by 12"

Person B (tonight) asks about the length of the appointment to plan the morning, it is longer than they anticipated, but they didn't ask at the time. This means we leave later than they had anticipated but with time. Lunch may be pushed back slightly which could result in a grumpy DC. It is possible to take snacks on the journey.

Person B is pissed and now disinterested in sorting the plan for tomorrow. Person A is consequently annoyed because things need to be sorted regardless.

Who is BU?

YABU - Person A is U
YANBU - Person B is U

You clearly can’t be there for lunch if leaving at 12pm with a 2 hour drive. I’d say for the hair dresser YABU

Omg what a fuss about nothing! You said 12, that's the agreed time. Now he wants to go earlier for lunch - is that the issue? Just say you'll be ready for 12 as originally agreed.
Jeez I wish my problems were this easy.

It's a bit of a hullabaloo about nothing really. You said you'd be done by 12, just stop for lunch on the way or before you leave. Also bring some snacks. 2 hours isn't that long a drive. And check in is from 3, you don't have to be there exactly at 3.

it is longer than they anticipated, but they didn't ask at the time.

They shouldn’t have had to. Person A should have explained fully. Person A is BU.

I guessed you were A but was assuming it was a medical sort of appointment. YABU. Get your hair done another time!!!

Has B taken annual leave for this?

I wouldn’t have accepted the hair appointment.

But she said she'd be ready to leave at 12, which she will. That's explained enough.

Person B sounds anal. And I'd love nice hair for a break.

It doesn’t seem like you are going to be there for lunch if you’re not ready to leave until 12

Is it usually so difficult to communicate?

I think it’s a bit U to hold up a family break for the hairdresser… it’s fair enough and you can I do what you like but I understand why he’s annoyed.

My DH apparently can’t go on holiday or a night away without a haircut and cutting the grass.. it drives me insane tbh as he doesn’t work it into his time before we go and we all end up waiting on him.

This sounds like an argument over absolutely nothing.
Go get your hair done. Can DC not have something to tide them over then you all eat when you arrive?

the haidresser? If i were your dh, I would be fizzing.it's hardly the first flurry of hair appoinments post lockdown, so unless you haave lice, yabvvu

You said in your post he was pissed!

So you were going to leave at 12 originally, you’re still going to be ready to leave at 12, I don’t see the issue?

Is he annoyed because he now has to sort out DC in the morning who he’d assumed you would do?

You were never going to arrive before 2 even if you weren’t going out in the morning, as long as you’re packed and ready to go I don’t get what the issue is?

@SnackSizeRaisin she meant pissed off not drunk

I think she means pissed off 😆

I I thought it was about a medical appointment! I wouldn't be getting my hair done on the morning of a family trip away.

because so many english people are parroting US 'engliish'. Stupidity on steroids

I'd be pissed if DP booked an appointment the morning of us going away because all the last minute crap would be left to me to deal with.

You’re being unreasonable, a hair appointment isn’t necessary and puts unnecessary time pressure in. It would be much nicer to
leave at 11, have lunch, short stroll and then check in. Leaving at 12 doesn’t leave enough time.

I’d be annoyed at waiting for you
but
It’s his fault for not listening to you about leaving at 12. When you told him that, then that was the time to tell you to cancel the appointment.

I'd be pissed off having to wait due to a hairdressers appointment.