Trying to keep this short. Elderly dad 79 has been in and out of hospital for the last 8 weeks. I work full time but make sure to call him everyday, visit as much as I can even though its the next county over and do things like his online shopping. He recently called during work to say he needed help as he had soiled his sheets so my husband left work and went to clean him up. I have arranged a care package and both myself and my brother really do our best for him.
I have had a really rough 6 weeks myself with a visit to a&e, anxiety problems, an ear infection and feeling generally run down. My husband and I both work full time. We don't earn much more than minimum wage. After my scare at A&E we decided to get the train to Wales for 2 days for some fresh air and a little break a couple of weeks ago.
Fast forward to Friday just gone and my electric and gas direct debit has been taken and they have taken double from me without my consent leaving me us very short for the rest of the month. I called my dad and asked could I borrow it and he said no. Fine, that's his choice and he is not obliged too. He called me today and asked did I get the money I needed. I said no,but it didn't matter now. I said I was a little upset that he hadn't asked me why I needed it, I could have been in a real bind, needed food etc. He then said I shouldn't be asking for money for food when me and my husband work and he and my brother had talked about it this morning and had been saying why had we gone on holiday. And lots of other quite nasty stuff about me needing to make sure I can pay my bills. I explained the bill was unexpected etc.
He is of course entitled to say that. And not to lend me money. But I feel really hurt by his attitude. I'm not saying he should give me money because I put myself out for him either. Just feel bloody hurt.