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Am I the unreasonable one here?

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hoolahoops37 · 21/08/2022 07:50

I'm just wondering if I'm BU here as I'm feeling pretty hurt by my husband at the moment but I'm not sure if I'm BU here.
I was working late last night and when I came home from work (he's watching the fight on tv) I had a bit of an eventful shift nothing I couldn't deal with but I just wanted to talk about my day to him for a few minutes like he talks to me when he gets home from work.
I knew he was wasn't listening as he was too focused on the tv so I just said it doesn't matter and went to make a cup of tea and he obviously picked up I was a bit upset. He then shouts at me and said I told you I wanted to watch this tonight I don't know why you're getting upset for. The thing is he has been away with work all week and got home Friday night and I listened to him about his week granted I wasn't watching tv but even if I was I'd still would have given him my full attention, paused the tv or lowered it.
Just wondering if I'm the unreasonable one here?

OP posts:
Tiani4 · 21/08/2022 09:17

Yabu
I agree with other PPs
He told you he wanted to watch the fight on TV. He was watching it and you ruined it by constantly interrupting

HEBU if after they fight was finished he didn't stop and listen to you, so you could unwind, but your chat didn't have to happen then. You have to pick your time.

When I first get home from work my head is full and I can't cope with deep chats. That doesn't stop my DCs from talking at to me but I'd expect an adult to be able to wait.

If I was getting home quickly to watch a live sports match or live event, and told my partner that, I'd be pretty peeved if they were so selfish to talk over it at me, instead of waiting. If no one is about to die, it can wait 90 minutes. And I'd be a better listener once I've done what I was focused on.

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