To call my cousin out?

[Dustydolly]

Some advice please as to what you would do.
After a night out my daughter told me my cousin sent her a couple of texts mocking my weight, went something like this..
Daughters birthday is coming up and she said to cousin
"Gosh I'm nearly out of my teens"
Cousin replied " you're still young it's when you hit 40 you'll feel it"
Daughter... "well mum is 38 I'll see how she feels about that"
Cousin " You mean 38 stone hahaha"

I don't want to break my daughters trust as he'll know she told me but what the fuck! I feel like telling him what a twat he is to make such comments and why on earth he felt to need to say that. Guess I'm just having a rant really but bloody hell it's annoyed me!

Rude and ignorant. Rise above it.

He's a stupid little twat. Ignore!

Why did your daughter tell you?
Did your daughter tell him to fuck off and if she didn't why not?

No don't "call him out" .
He sounds like a dick head but you are an adult so rise above it.

“Call him out”? How old are you? That’s what children in a playground do.

Yeah that would annoy me too even if it was a 'joke' that seemed like a good idea after a night out.

However, if that was my cousin who said that no fucking way would I tell my mum. I mean why would I want her to know someone has said something dickish when the only result is her feeling hurt?

Your DD has a weird way of thinking.

Do you mean raise the matter with him? Challenge his rudeness? Yes. Also perhaps teach your daughter how to respond to messages like that assertively. Or to block. Or keep it to herself.

Your daughter is old enough to have told him to cut it out, and to not have hurt your feelings by passing on what he said.

Your cousin is rude and stupid but just ignore him, and tell your daughter passing on rude comments is hurtful and unnecessary.