I want to preface this with the fact that I absolutely do not condone the affair, and it has fundamentally changed our friendship to the point that I don't know if we can continue to be in each other's lives. That's not in question in the slightest.
A very close friend I has was in a relationship with a married man from 2017 to 2021, at which point she broke it off. He had been married for 10 years, with two children, and is very much the 'lad' type- obsessed with the gym, going out etc. My friend is 32 now (27 when they met) and he is 47.
As far as she's told me, and I appreciate she may not be 100% truthful about all aspects of this relationship, he had given the impression that him and his wife were separated when they met and she didn't find out the truth until 2020 at which point they took a 6 month break. They only resumed after his friends 'confirmed' he'd told his wife and they'd started with divorce proceedings.
They broke up because (among other things) he had gradually come more and more controlling, and she decided she wanted time on her own. She's since met a wonderful man who knows all
of this and hasn't spoken to MM (married man) since breaking it off.
Last weekend she discovered he was 1) still married and 2) his wife had no idea of the entire debacle. She found out because MM had been drunkenly texting her and she saw his profile picture on WhatsApp was a wedding shot.
I was with her at the time and told her just to block and delete but she took it upon herself to message his wife and tell her everything. Screenshots, photos, emails. The whole caboodle.
I can't decide if what she's done is right- I feel at my core that it is but there's a part of me that thinks she must have known! The wife has been in touch a lot asking for details, which my friend has provided.
I just don't know if she's better off cutting this whole situation off.