To ask your worst experiences with in-laws?

[Serenaalsorises]

Currently wanting to rip my hair out with mine. DP is super close with his family on insane levels, and they are so overbearing, he sees NO issues with it - which means I just sound/look like the wicked witch of the west.

I need to know I'm not the only one who's got in-laws like this..

My ex nearlu father in law (engaged never got married thank god). Hit me on three different occasions, make hideous sexual references and was the biggest vile bully ever. If you ever said anything back he'd claim he was going to take an overdose.
It was ultimate hell. Topped it of with demanding that I carried his and his new wife's baby...

Absolute vile man 🤮🤮
My new in law are lovely, can sometimes be over bearing and annoying but I found my blessings 😂

MIL and I get on great now but through hard work after having a REALLY tough start.

She pissed me off the most when we were on a destination wedding holiday on a Greek island. There were donkeys that people could pay to ride to take them up the hills. These poor donkeys were in a shocking state, scans everywhere and would carry dozens of -often extremely overweight - people up the hills. I expressed how I thought it was a cruel practice.

MIL thought this was hilarious and spent the whole holiday making jokes about ‘Lydia and her precious donkeys’ and saying things like ‘Ooh here comes a donkey and a fat man, let’s hope Lydia doesn’t push him off’

DH just banged on about it being ‘her sense of humour’. Then one night she made a donkey joke again and I said ‘oh whatever Sharon’ and she went ‘aw didn’t mean to upset you’ and fucking ruffled my hair. We were walking down the street. I turned to DH and said “Unless you want a divorce get me the fuck away from your mother right now”. She heard, as I had hoped she did

He had a word with her after that and a couple of years later she was telling us about a colleague she hated - and told a story about how this colleague ruffled her hair the other day! She was absolutely apoplectic. I said ‘oh don’t you remember doing the same to me in Greece for Laura’s wedding?’. She completely denied it 🙄 even when both of us were saying yea you did!

Things have got better, at the time she was with what turned out to be a very emotionally abusive boyfriend, and she improved hugely when she left him. No hard feelings now but god at one point I could’ve smacked her

• MIL wandering around back streets in Egypt in a swimsuit and short shorts. No bra and no concept that its a Muslim country, and no concept that the entire village was staring at her! She had invited herself on the trip.
• Her believing that the inside of the underground, burial tombs could be seen from a hot air balloon 🙄
• Sending a cheque for our wedding as a gift (they didn't attend), but telling us NOT to cash it- as they were about to go on holiday and taking DH's other sibling and their entire family!
• When I first stayed at parents in laws, I said beforehand I had a cat allergy and would they mind closing the bedroom door to the room we we staying in. I'd close the door daily- but MIL was snooping through my things and I returned to find the cat had urinate inside my suitcase of clothes. (I lived abroad then, the exchange rate was poor and having to pay to dry clean heavy winter coats- twice, was expensive). Not to mention stocking up on allergy meds, sinus sprays and allergy eye drops.

Coming across some really hard few years, really struggling with bills,food,loss of business and my health having in desperation turned to my In laws and Being told by very wealthy father in law, who consistently flaunts his wealth and drones on about how much he helps people out,that we should spend less(we had no money, i was skipping meals)and if desperate go on benefits ,we had two toddlers then.

My son was born severely disabled,i struggled to death trying to cope while my husband tried to keep us afloat by working so we wouldn't lose our home.i suffered a huge breakdown and actually begged for my inlaws to help me out with him,told them i was suicidal,sleeping no more than 2 hours every night having to watch my son,they didn't come near us. My mother in law was actually afronted that i asked her,told me she had her own life and sister in laws took opportunity to stick the boot in by telling me i was an awful parent, i deserved suffering, they hated me. I attempted suicide that night.

To the rest of society they are great people but its a big fat lie.

My MIL took advantage of every opportunity possible to tell me how I had "stolen her baby boy." 🙄 BTW, my husband is in no way a mummy's boy.

After years of this, and many other things, including catching her in my bedroom going through my drawers, I said "no more" and don't have anything to do with her.

My in laws take every opportunity to let me know I'm not really family. For example, 'let's take a family photo of all of us together' you take the picture grumpypants or 'we all (all female members of family) went on a family girlie day last week, it was so much fun'. Obviously I only find out afterwards don't warrant an invite even when other non blood related people have been invited.

My DH and I take bets at what they'll do next to hammer it home. They're really quite inventive when they want to be, ingenious even but I can't give the really good ones as would be too outing 🤣😆

I let them amuse themselves and thank my lucky stars I don't get invites as then I may actually have to go. Have invented some lovely health issues as reason for missing the last 3 family events though 👍

Oh my love, I sincerely hope things are better for you now.

@Yesthatismychildsigh thanks for the well wishes. Life isn't great but im a bit stronger,time and the struggles with my son have changed me immeasurably, my inlaws have continued in the same vain.they are outwardly nice to people, gone as far as to say to people my son isn't that bad,other people cope why cant i,and oh we looked after him before (once for two hours 10 years ago)i could go on and on,i actually cant believe what ive put up with,ive been such a pathetic doormat.

You’re neither pathetic nor a doormat. You got things done. You don’t realise it at the moment but you’re a strong woman.

I used to absolutely love mines. But now she grates on me. Now we have our 5MO DD, she is so overbearing its unbelievable. She wants to see her every single weekend sometimes for hours and hours on end. We actually had to put a stop to it happening so often. My fault for letting it happen when DD was so young! She constantly wants to do thing as a family, and as much as that sounds lovely, we're just trying to experience all our firsts as a little family unit without feeling absolutely terrible. She's constantly putting on the water works if we have to say no things!

A few examples of the overstepping below:

"What are we doing for Mother's Day"
"What are we doing for Father's Day"
"What are doing for SIL 30th"
"What are we doing for Christmas"

She's not happy that we are just spending Christmas just the three of us. We said the grandparents can visit for a bit in the afternoon, but we don't want to leave the house or have a crowded house at that as it's a small flat.

Who knew comprising would be this exhausting😴