To think maybe she’s the problem?

[Sparkleofstsrdust]

I think my friend has been with her boyfriend 3/4 years and in that time she’s just non stopped complained about anyone in his life.

First his mum and sister were too interfering. They even had an argument about his sister once in front of me - very awkward.

Then one group of friends he has they were apparently rude about her on a Skype call (covid times)

Then his main group of friends. His best friend hates her, she’s taking him away from him. His other best friend and wife cancel any double date planned. One girl in the group fancies her boyfriend and she’s horrible to her as a result etc

Now she’s told me his friend has invited him to his wedding and she’s not even had an evening invite.

I’d be hurt by that too but I’m starting to feel like surely it can’t be all those that are completely in the wrong?

She’s not horrible to me but I’m starting to think she’s the problem

You don't sound much of a friend to her!

How so?

I’ve spent those 3/4 years listening to her, advising her, telling her not to let it become between her relationship.

But it’s getting to the stage of me thinking maybe it’s her if this is the 9th person she has an issue with?

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head OP!

My brothers girlfriend is the same.

She doesn't want anyone else around him and bad mouths everyone. He now doesn't see his friends or work colleagues and even me and my mum, his dad and other siblings. She has some complaint about everyone in his life.

She always makes an excuse as to why they can't come to something
She sounds like a controlling person imo

Yeah I think you're right too. She's the common denominator in all those scenarios

If it were one person who she had a problem with, it'd be their fault, but when it's so many people who apparently are problems, then yes, I'd agree that she's the common factor and it's more than likely that she's the issue...