AIBU to use my back garden?

[attheendofmytether23]

So we live in a row of houses and where our back garden is there's a couple of Fences and almost like a gap between them and our neighbours start there. I don't even think of them as our neighbours because short of walking around the street we never interact with them

My daughter woke from her nap and immediately asked to go outside. She has her sand pit outside and toys so off we went

The neighbours started screaming at each other, proper screaming. Sounded like an argument between 3 or 4 people. I don't even know who lives there.
When they started swearing and screaming my child wanted to go inside because they were scaring her and to be honest scaring me so I picked her up and went inside. I didn't realise before but they can actually see me from the raised part of our garden. Our house is on a slope at the back.
Anyway they started screaming abuse at me, asking me if I'd heard enough and that I can't control what they do in there house. I didn't say anything. Just went inside.

Anyway went back out to sort the washing out and there still there. Started yelling when they saw me and laughing.

I didn't go inside originally. It sounded like a heated debate between families and I wasn't listening. Only when they started swearing did I go in

Honestly, fuck 'em. If they are roaring and shouting then the can expect to be overheard.

@sillysmiles exactly what I was thinking. If your going to argue maybe go inside. I could hear them getting louder but thought they were just chatting and maybe getting a but carried away. Only when the swearing started did I go in.

You didn't do anything wrong.

If they don't want to be hard they either need to shut the fuck up or argue indoors.

Sounds like you've just got that type of arsehole neighbour who thinks everyone else is interested in their petty little lives.

Sympathy, OP. I don't know what to advise - they sound like idiots, but that doesn't help you. I would try and go out to play in the garden with your child before they get out there, and sort of establish yourselves. Surely, surely, even vile people like that will see a child playing in its own garden and leave it in peace....?? But I may be very naive.

I'm not suggesting you expose your child to frightening or threatening situations, just that, if possible, don't relinquish the right to use your own garden peacefully and quietly. If you go out and encourage her to play (reasonably quietly!) it will be a non-confrontational way of asserting your and her rights to your own garden. Just don't engage with them if you can avoid it. Easy to say, I know.

We are very fortunate to have a big garden and we do use it a lot. They've always been quite loud in the garden. Noticed thru the lockdown and that at new years and fireworks night they'll have massive parties but we aren't bothered. My daughter isn't bothered and her room faces the back so if she's not we aren't.
I'm not going to stop taking her out but I don't like the assumption I was eavesdropping. I mean I heard them getting louder but we were building sandcastles and I wasn't listening. Only when she got upset did I go in. Not even sure what there arguing about to be fair. Still going on now.

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Next time say why don’t you go inside if you’re so concerned that people are listening.

Sounds like they were just mad and trying to find someone to blame or be mad at.

Don't understand the fence situation. Is your garden open to neighbour's garden?

@33334bu its a really weird one I know. So the house I'm talking about isn't actually our street. It's the one on the street opposite ours but there garden is opposite ours. So we have a fence around our garden and they have a fence around theirs. And in between the 2 Fences there's a strip of grass splitting the 2. I thought our fence was tall enough but apparently not. There's sirens going off now and I can hear a lot of shouting so I imagine someone has called the police

Oh I think I’d be out there with a bucket of pop corn. (Not really, but I think I might have a little touch of schadenfreude)