I have posted about various aspects of this over the years, so apologies if anything sounds familiar.
Ex pays no CM. He paid about £140 per month for about a year and that's it - been apart 8 years. He has them 4 nights per fortnight, though quite often misses a night due to his gigs. His payments stopped when he gave up his 'job' - was quite an ad hoc, wfh type set up anyway - when his df died and he inherited £200k. He spent most of that on a house so has no housing costs.
DC have told me that he is wfh again doing stuff online. In addition, one dc in particular is increasingly reluctant to go there. He is the complete opposite of his dad and has started to be disgusted by his dad's laziness, as he sees it, and is saying stuff like he is not a parent, shouldn't be with kids etc. He knows his dad plans to move abroad when dc go to uni and he keeps saying he wishes he would just go now as then he wouldn't have to see him but it wouldn't be on him, iyswim.
I'm sad about the relationship breakdown that appears to be happening between ds1 nd his dad but on a practical level if he stops going it means the small financial benefit I get from him eating there is gone. And ex is bringing in some money it seems.
WIBU to inform CMS of this change in circumstances? Also, how much should I be encouraging ds to see his dad a bit? Ds himself has said he knows his dad would blame me if he stopped going but I've said that's not ds's problem at all and I'm really not bothered. But cutting off from your dad is a big step and I don't know if ds really wants that or what? He is getting extremely uptight and anxious about going but when I say don't go then he says he can't and we just go round and round. He's going into Y11 and I feel like this stress every time he 'should' be going there is not going to be helpful to him at all.
An outside perspective would be great.