Bit of background - SO has two children from a previous relationship who he has 50/50, I have two children of my own who live with us full time. I have been a SAHM for the last two years as I relocated to be with SO and worked until it became too difficult with the children and travelling. I am fully aware that we are in a very fortunate position that at this moment in time I do not need to work.
My SO works very hard to support the family financially and I have complete respect for that, I look after the house and the kids.
Long story short....SO has little or no input with my two children when his two children arent here (I also do the majority of looking after all four children when they are all here) I dont ask for any help with the kids, he sleeps in until whenever he wants and does pretty much whatever he wants. With it being the school holidays I have spent all week on my own with my two children and I was looking forward to some family time this weekend, and Ill be honest, just a bit of support with the kids. I openly said to him yesterday that I was tired and looking forward to a bit of support over the weekend, my eldest has ADHD and ADS, so its full on.
6am this morning my SO was still not in bed, I found him sat at his computer, surrounded by bottles of wine and pissed as a fart. Everytime he drinks excessively he is good for nothing for the rest of day, spends all day in bed and I left on my own with the kids. This has happened a few times over the last few months.
I told him I dont think its fair and asked him to go to bed before the kids get up and sleep it off....this is were it all went tits up. I said I dont want the kids getting up and seeing him drunk in the morning. He wouldnt go to bed, said he was staying up as he isnt tired, said he was going to come out for the day with us, he was cleary drunk and I said I dont want him to be around us right now. I voiced that I dont feel he is present for my two children.
I feel like me and my children dont matter, he would never have done this if his two children were here. I have said I think this is unfair and I been made to feel like a total bitch.
Before going to bed he told me I do nothing (because I dont work) I just swan around spending money that he works for, Im out of order, I speak to him with constant contempt, told me Im totally naive as to what is going in the world right now and have no respect for how hard he works. He said that If he wants to have a blow out I have no right to make him feel like he has done something wrong.
Then infront of my children (who have been through a lot) started saying if I want to leave then just go as he is sick of it.
Ive broken down and cried in front of my kids, which I never do as I dont want them burdened with my emotions and I just feel sad and like complete shit.
Am I in the wrong for saying anything about his antics?