Family court say I need to be more positive about stalker dad

[gonnabeok]

So I was at family court today. I am being stalked by my ex at a jointly owned house. I have been through court for 2 years to force the sale of it. I have police panic alarms in my house and there is a police investigation covering stalking over the last year including having my cctv damaged, shed broken into, shed burgled and locks cut. Mine and our daughter's life has been hell for well over a year. I am classified as high risk yet today the family court told me today I am not being positive enough about our daughter's dad the stalker to her and I should share the new address I am hoping to move to.

Am I being unreasonable in not wishing to sing the praises of a stalker and not wish to share my new address as the stalking will just start all over again - mainly at night and in the early hours? I have shared the area I will be in which I think is fair.

This comes is absolutely no surprise to me having navigate to the family courts myself. my ex-husband produced three documents demonstrating that I had got three restraining orders against him, if anybody’s ever had a restraining order they could tell you just how unbelievably difficult to is and how high the bar is anyway he shows that to the court on the court interpreted that as proof of my unreasonableness. And they agreed with him.

Jeez. I don't know what to say. Is there a process to point out how mad that is/would the police advocate?

That's the family Court for you. Absolutely illogical/ insane. Good luck fighting it, that's all you can pray for, they never seem to be able to apply rationale.

That.is.insane.

And no, YANBU

'm honestly not surprised. Sorry ,just hope it turns around for you by some luck. Have you good barrister? You'll need it.

How old is your dd? Yanbu by the way. Can you get advice from the police about sharing the address.

Approach this through a solicitor! Have you had advice from Womens Aid?

Family court are deluded. They come out with some utter madness at times.
Agree with the suggestion to contact Women's aid.

Rights of Women are good to talk to as well. Here's info on their free advice line for family law:

rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-advice/family-law/

Do the courts not believe your ex is behaving in the way you’ve described? Presumably the police have evidence of his behaviour if they’re investigating? As others have said, you need to contact Women’s Aid for support.

Could you turn it around by going for sole custody. The burden of proof is insane but I achieved it. Your DD would need to be on board.

My ex finally lost parental rights when my DC were 11 & 10. Separated at 2 & 3. So a long road and we probably should have gone for it earlier.

My dd is 11 and autistic. My crime against my ex was to end the relationship after he cheated. He agreed an undertaking last year not to come to the house or gardens. He told family court I was making it up. The court told me I being negative about my ex. My refusal to give my new address has resulted in a prohibited steps order stopping me moving and I need to see another judge.yes women's aid are involved.

Don’t worry about a prohibitatal steps order, I got one too and moved anyway. Better to seek forgiveness than permission. Nothing will happen. Just keep it secret until youve moved. Tell nobody.