Hi all, so I’ve been friends with a group of 4 girls for about twenty years. I’ve moved away (about an hour away from them) and we’ve still stayed in touch no problems! Until recently….one of the girls has moved even further away and expects me to drive 2 hours for a lunch date. I can’t do that. When we were younger I used to drive us all everywhere, no petrol money asked as i enjoyed their company and that was enough. But now I’ve said no, I can’t drive all that way anymore. Unfortunately I’ve had to cancel twice our meetings up as I haven’t been well - I have mental health problems and suffer from migraines. The girls were not happy with this.
Anyway, I try to keep in touch with our WhatsApp group. I did write a long message to them apologising for not being there as much as I would like but work, family and my college course and my mental health distracts me. One friend phoned me one day and I didn’t answer. When I saw her missed call I text straight away. Her reply was I’m not taking about this over the phone. Then a message went on the group chat saying ‘thank you (friend 2) for answering when I need you. even though I did reply via text. Then, I had my phone off last week as I had broken down on the motor way for four hours. There was many messages about one friend going for a new job. I didn’t see them. When she mentioned it again I said, oh what’s this? A blunt reply. I messaged - read the messages. No are you ok after the breakdown etc.
i arranged with another friend on the chat to go out. I have messaged twice now - no answer. Ignored.
i give up! I can’t message the friend again as I don’t want to look like a beg friend! I’m trying hard to make amends for missing calls etc. Am I being unreasonable thinking this is off? Or am i making a big old deal over nothing? I know you guys will give me the truth!
trying to save a 20 year old friendship here but it’s difficult!
Thanks for reading this diatribe! in the grand scheme of life it’s trivial I know - just wanted your opinion.