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am I the reason the world in such bad shape?

18 replies

JJ · 21/01/2008 12:36

Just had a woman knock on my front door and call me a "desecration to the planet" and the "reason the planet's in such distress" out of the blue and feel a little shaken up (although I could have taken her, I'm 'ard, me).

A car drove through our front garden wall in early December. With the holidays and extreme difficulty of finding a builder who works with insurance to fix it and having to deal with insurance, it's not yet fixed. I've been trying, really really trying to get someone and ended up nearly in tears to the insurance company last week and it's getting me down.

Some of our overgrown plants were destroyed - the garden was due for an overhaul and general cut-back anyway. The woman said that I'm a disgrace to the planet, I should save those poor plants and she wants to see it all cleaned up by the next time she comes by. Well, she said more - it was quite a long tirade, but that's the gist. I stood there open-mouthed saying "ok, okaaaay...".

In her defense, it does look awful and I think she would have had a point about the bricks looking bad. After discussing with my neighbours, we moved the bricks off the pavement, but they're not stacked as they wouldn't be stable (there are a lot of kids around and I don't want them climbing on and then falling off or worse, pulling them over on themselves). Anyway, neighbours don't mind; I mind, definitely, but I'm doing what I can to get someone to fix. But the plants?? The plants were going to go anyway and were scheduled to be cut down soon. They're nothing special - some spiky tree things which have taken over and looked terrible and some overgrown shrubs (we were just going to cut the shrubs back).

So, my question is: was she being unreasonable to come up, knock on my door to have a go at me? What an awful woman. What should I do next time? I don't doubt there will be a next time.

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Hecate · 21/01/2008 12:38

Tell her to piss off and that you are going to call the police. She has NO business at all to do what she has done. Who the hell does she think she is?Do you recognise her?

Chequers · 21/01/2008 12:39

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bumpybecky · 21/01/2008 12:39

she IBU, sounds like a nutter!

I can understand someone caring about the neighbourhood and even wanting your front garden to get sorted, but that doesn't mean anyone has the right to come and have a go like that!

Chequers · 21/01/2008 12:40

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ArmadilloDaMan · 21/01/2008 12:40

She was being completely unreasonable and overreacting.

"she wants to see it all cleaned up by the next time she comes by." - she's a nutcase. SHe has no rights to make those demands of you.

DOn't talk to me about insurance companies (though saying that they are fine, it is the contractors they had that were shite).

coppertop · 21/01/2008 12:41

The cheeky mare! I'd be tempted to hand her a set of gardening tools and say "Off you go then!"

JJ · 21/01/2008 12:42

Oh, thank you guys. It really got to me, I have to admit. Sheesh, there are lots of things that people could reasonably have a go at me about, but I didn't think this was one of them.

She's not one of my neighbours that I recognise. I'll ask my next door neighbour if she knows her when she gets home. (The woman had a large thin shaggy-ish dog, so should be recognisable by that.)

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snowleopard · 21/01/2008 12:44

What a cow! This was obviously an accident and not your fault.

Environmentally, the worst thing you can do in your garden (apart from turn it into a coal fired power station obviously) is concrete it over to park a car on, as this means rain washes off it into the drainage system, contributing to groundwater depletion and adding to flooding.

What's environmentally good is having a mixture of plants, soil and plant litter to provide the biggest variety of food and habitats for wildlife, and not using a lot of weedkillers and pesticides (or any at all if possible). Letting your garden run wild is highly green. If she comes back, tell her you have the greenest garden possible and the reason it looks crap is because of an evil environment-destroying car driver so would she like to go and have a go at them?

bossybritches · 21/01/2008 12:45

Hand her a black bin liner & tell her to help herself to all the poor plants that need rescuing if she declines tell her to go save he planet from someone else!!

Bloody cheek!!

OrmIrian · 21/01/2008 12:45

Nutter. Ignore her if you can.

sushistar · 21/01/2008 12:46

JJ, that's sounds a bit scarey - no wonder it shook you up. She sounds like she might have mental health problems (seriously) - as that's pretty unusual behaviour. Poor lady. She was being completly unreasonable, if there is a next time just say 'I'm sorry, we're getting it sorted out' and shut the door. You don't need random strangers having a go at you in your own front garden!

llynnnn · 21/01/2008 12:49

Thats awful!! Poor you! I would've just burst into tears if anyone said something like that to me!

ALL insurance companies take their own sweet time, surely everyone knows that! Stupid woman!!

Hope you are feeling better now

JJ · 21/01/2008 12:58

Thanks, thanks, thanks - you make me laugh!

I did burst into tears but luckily not until I got back inside. Her tone was venomous - quite a lot of hate directed at me.

Actually, looking at it, that can't be her real problem, can it? There's probably something else going on for her and this is what she took it out on.

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willow · 21/01/2008 16:22

It's been a while, but might I suggest that you

WHACK HER ON THE HEAD WITH A BRICK?

JJ · 21/01/2008 16:45

hee hee hee, I had forgotten about that. I'll make a small stack near the door. Have enough available, I think!

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LoveAndSqualor · 21/01/2008 16:49

Bloody hell, are you serious?! She is unbalanced. Ignore her. And if she comes back, tell her to bugger off and mind her own business.

loopylou6 · 21/01/2008 18:44

drop kick her down the path

derah · 21/01/2008 19:37

So how is having a messy garden distressing the planet in any way, is what I want to know?

What a loon!

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